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Thank you for the replies! Very helpful and interesting points of view. Definitely lots to think about. Will fully reply soon.

Hey Mags, I can absolutely understsnd why someone as experienced as you, and from what I've read other poly people prefer not to get involved with couples that have newly opened up. There is definitely a bit of a rollercoaster as they find their footing, and sort through the many feelings and...

Hey Mags, ( can I call you Mags? ) Very much appreciate the thoughtful approach and experience. Though, I don't 100% agree with everything you wrote, I can understand your point of view. I'll write in more detail why I disagree with some of what you shared a bit later. Busy with work at the moment.

I hope so! Definitely going to be extra careful with my opinions and any advice giving. I appreciate you!

Thanks Seasoned! I actually read through part of that thread and was considering joining, just wasn't sure if my newbieness should. I think I will, though!

Kdt, Sadly I think you're right. Appreciate your observations and tend to agree. There is something more there than the open marriage/poly thing happening. That's good advice, after she opened up with me about their Monday conversation/fight, I decided it was best not to bring up overnights or...

Yeah, I can empathize with Adam. Things went from Annie, never having an emotional connection in four years. To oh shit I love this guy, and wsnt to send lots of time with him. So I can empathize, but also some of what I've heard is definitely hypocritical. Good for him, but not good for her, at...

The first meeting went well! Lots to chat about, it was easy, short, and sweet. I hear he thinks I'm a good guy, and can see why she likes me. Also, I brought up exactly zero things about anything poly or related. 😂 I just followed their lead. He honestly seemed a bit nervous, and I was...

Hey Magdlyn, Thanks yet again for all of this! I definitely lean towards letting the two of them work out details on their own as well. I would not want to negotiate for Annie, and especially not without her directly asking me first. I think I would frame the question about time to the two of...

Magdlyn, Thank you for all of this, it's incredibly helpful! Very good perspective on how I spend my time. I most definitely would not want to use the time I have with Annie, to focus on Adam. That time is finite, and I'd definitely prefer to use every second of it with her. Really...

I'm definitely going to ask for clarity on this from them. Best not to assume my ideas align without asking.

Thanks for this, that's a good question. My idea of hierarchy might be different than theirs. I'm thinking it's more of a priority thing, but I shouldn't assume they feel the same way. Sounds like you aren't a huge fan of hierarchy situations?

Soooo, "Annie" and I spent some time together yesterday, and some things came up. Good things. To my surprise well before we sat down and had our first "poly relationship" conversation. She asked if I'd like to have dinner with the two of them this week. Sounds like Adam was the main driver...

Magdlyn, Thank you for taking the time to reply with your insight and wisdom. Lots of helpful information and perspectives. I agree completely NRE can be intoxicating and consuming in many fantastically fun and exciting ways. Keeping a grounded perspective about that as much as possible is...

I get that read as well, they are both very attractive people. But I do get a sense that perhaps in a group setting she might feel overshadowed.

Gotcha, so it's kind of hands off at this point? Since it's all new and we haven't really established a "type" dynamic yet. Well, I suppose it's more parallel at this point actually. I'm going to see her tonight, and bring some of this up. We'll see how it goes! Going to ask about the three of...

Kd, thank you for the reply and sharing your specific experience in an MFM V. It's reassuring to know that there are examples out there of something like this working. I agree there is no way to know if my relationship develops into a co-primary agreement. But it is reassuring to know that...

Thank you both so much for your insight and advice. This is all incredibly helpful. Everything the two of you shared feels very reassuring, thank you for that. These are all such great questions, too. I've thought to ask them, or more so worried about them. But the framing is much more concise...

Thank you for the reply! Those are some interesting and helpful analogies you shared. Thanks for that! I also hadn't considered the word "dependant" in that particular sense before. Or the fact that in the poly world, they have really just opened their marriage. Which makes sense, the...

Hello, I found this site after deciding to do a bit of reading about dating a married woman. I've read through several posts, and found them very informative and helpful. But they are older, and times change so I thought I would ask more directly. A bit of background. I'm a 43 year old man...