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    New to poly-- failed triad

    Thank you! One thing I know for sure… at the end of the day and at the beginning of the day, this too shall pass… one way or another!
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    I most definitely caught that! Let Sally tell it, she wants us all together. But now that I've ended things with Dolly, she no longer wants to try. In her words, she has accepted that this tryout will not work. I honestly can’t say or know if she enjoys this or not. But what I can say and what...
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    Hahaha I hear you! I like the idea of separate blankets too lol. And Thank youuuu ☺️☺️
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    Thank you for recognizing that. It feel validated ☺️☺️ That’s my hope for me as well and i know that I will have that feeling again
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    Right! She has no idea what polyamory really is
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    I absolutely agree! She definitely wants it closed and Admittedly it’s hard for me because I have a fear of losing her as well. It would be much easier if there were some mutual understanding, having a conversation regarding boundaries or something, anything.
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    Things are over between Dolly and I however Sally and Dolly are still figuring things out as far as their relationship to continue moving forward.
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    That’s what I don’t understand. She says she will not stay with me if I date anyone else.
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    She simply does not want me with anyone else and she feels I will leave her for someone else. She says that even tho the triad didn’t work I shouldn’t bring in a new energy or a new person. Basically she is being controlling and not open to the idea of me dating someone else.
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    I am lost, hurt and confused. I brought up me exploring polyamory by being open to dating and Sally completely and vehemently shut it down. I feel like I am going to lose my relationship over this. I really need some advice.
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    Also I like the way you put it about Dolly and I entertaining casual encounters once they are strong and so are Sally and I. That is something I will communicate
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    I definitely agree it’s horrible timing for her to stay with us. And I like the idea that we both help how we can financially to get an Air bnb or something. I have the same feeling as you that her jealousy would soon work against her as she has expressed it so strongly that I don’t believe...
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    Yes we can have a parallel poly situation and I agree that is what’s best for me. Sally vocalized that she noticed past conversations where it seemed like Dolly may have been trying to triangulate and cause Sally to see me in a negative light… however Sally took back everything she said and said...
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    Update: The triad came back together and Dolly and I were on a friendly level with some intimacy. I say “were” because now I have opted out of the triad. There was a block between Dolly and me that prevented us from connecting. Although I was feeling it, I was really patient with it. Recently...
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    Ohhhh that’s interesting
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    Thank you so much for your advice and input. Sally stayed the night with Dolly last night for the second time. It feels weird that I’m kinda getting used to the idea of missing her and her being with another woman. I think often about exploring on my own.. i moved to another state to be with...
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    All DOWN in my feels today...

    I can relate to this more so due to a triad relationship not working out so now it’s a V and I am not even interested right now in dating someone else but I want to be just for some kind “balance”.
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    I am currently listening to Polysecure. I will definitely check out the other book and the podcast. Yes, you hit the nail on the head! That’s exactly what happened. Her spin on things is what is making any true reconciliation difficult. I am open, while she is not. You made some good points I...
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    New to poly-- failed triad

    Thank you! Yes I have more of an understanding that we don’t have to date the same person. Sally definitely wants to bring Dolly back in and I am understanding that this triad will be reformed if we continue. It won’t be the same as it was and I am okay with that. Yes indeed! It would be nice if...
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