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    What I want out of polyamory :)

    QFT. Fanastic manifesto, snow. I'm going keep this in my pocket.
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    How do you know you're poly?

    Update the second: we're writing letters to each other. Which is far better than nothing. Gala girl, you should be proud, we're taking our baby steps on being better communicators. (On a side note, I appreciate these volumes of advice you're giving, but we're going to keep it simple with weekly...
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    How do you know you're poly?

    So, first, thank you all for the advice and the welcome. I took the plunge this morning, edited my long post into a letter, read it over several times and then handed it to my wife: "I want you to read this; it's hard for me to talk about, so I wrote it down." She sat on the bed and I took a...
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    How do you know you're poly?

    First, I want to say that your "Weather Channel" metaphor is fantastic. things are rarely dramatic around here (we're pretty chill people, especially her), but this is a good framework for creating healthy habits. Now that you put it that way, it may very well be about both; they certainly...
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    How do you know you're poly?

    The K.I.S.S. approach has appeal. I'll think that over. Communication about sex and feelings is the weak point in our marriage. I don't think either of us grew up in an environment where we learned either the skills or vocabulary to do so easily. We're both intelligent adults, so we manage, but...
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    How do you know you're poly?

    We've had a pair of threesomes, but that was more being horny and exploring our sexuality than the more all-encompassing lifestyle that I understand poly to be. The gradual approach is probably a good idea. You're right, I'm in no rush. My wife is pretty sharp, so she'll probably connect the...
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    How do you know you're poly?

    It may seem like an obvious question to someone on the other side of the looking glass, but I've been wondering lately. So, let's have some background and context, and then more questions. I learned about the sheer existence of polyamory about a year ago, and I've been lurking about these...
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