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Seraphic, I'm a 37 y.o. male who was in a sumilar situation. For years, she always said that she wouldn't put up with phyiscal abuse from me, if I hit her even once... she would be gone. That's fine, I'm not a physical guy in that respect. But what's NOT fine is that she would manipulate...

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I understand that this is largely a support forum... people seem to most often come here to ask advice or such, but I would love to hear about success stories. I think that would give me (and likely others) some hope for the long term. What's your poly success story?

Hi Forgottennow, I am still pretty new here, so I cannot answer all of your questions, but the first and foremost important thing in a polyamorous relationship is ... of course ... total and complete openness and honesty with your partner(s). If you have any misgivings, fears, hesitation...

Isistopaz, I'm new to poly, but this place is a great place to be. I'm going to give you some of the best/most common advice for first-time posters. BREATHE! (seriously, do this, it helps) I was a trainwreck for weeks when this bombshell was dropped on me. I was rushed into things, and I...

Ativan.... 3 days. Once I learned how evil the crap was, I turfed it into the alley and proclaimed in a very dramatic manner that I didn't need the sh!t and I would overcome this without a crutch. And thank you for the compliment. It's hard to see the strength in oneself, especially ME. I'm...

Yes, things are a lot better for A and myself. Right now she's enjoying what she has with P, for as long as it lasts... I think deep down she knows it can't work but something within her compels her to move forward with him anyways. I'm starting to understand that. She initially did this...

Time for an update, and I really do appreciate all of the help so far. This place has been invaluable! You people are amazing. A and P met up a month ago, they started a physical relationship. Their sexual chemistry wasn't fantastic, but they want to hook up again. She's going out there...

Hi, my name is S and I am insecure. It's not a surprising self-diagnosis, really. I've always lacked self-confidence personally and professionally. I took an IQ test as part of an ADHD test and scored really high (127-133) but that is just a number to me. I'm gainfully employed in a great...

Right, that's how I feel. Mitigating factor: I've been dragging her through shit for 2.5 years trying to get my divorce finalized. About a year ago she started to block me without realizing it and expanded a friendship with a mutual online acquaintence. 5 weeks ago, I got the bombshell that...

I'm beginning to see what you mean by NRE, my initial understanding was that it lasted weeks maybe months. I guess we'll see what happens. *cry*

Actually, I'm just talking about NRE, not the LDR as a whole. Right now she's pretty gung-ho to have a relationship with this guy while I finalize my divorce, which should be said and done in 6-8 weeks. In that time, I see them hooking up at least twice more and texting/chatting online daily...

Hoe long does NRE last in a long distance relationship? My long time GF (we just called off the wedding, postponed to a later/unknown date) is starting a relationship with a man who lives over 5 hours away. Im not thrilled but I cant really blame her because my divorce isn't final yet. (6-8...

If after 3 weeks, after they've had a face-to-face without me... if then they're not sure they want to back away from a relationship beyond friendship... then yeah we'll have no choice but to postpone (at least). That's becoming more real. I hate it, but the looming wedding date is not...

My fears, in no particular order: That she truly IS poly. I really don't think she is because she never engaged in activity like this before me. That she will leave me for P. That she will ask me for an open relationship so she can explore this with P, and that I will not be able to cope...

Here's a scenario that I'd like to explore a little bit. What if I give her the green light to have a physical relationship with P. Presently, I'm not ok with that and our line has been drawn and she's ok (not great, but OK) with it. On paper, I'm the winner, hands down. We have a fully...

Well, made it through most of the day without turning into a blubbering idiot! Yay! I still feel pretty raw, but it was an ok day. Moments of dispair and panic, moments of clarity and vision. I stepped on the scale today, I'm down 7 pounds in 10 days. Not happy about that but gonna use the...

Well, there's been a little drama tonight. (enter sarcasm here) I had my first chat with P (the man she's interested in) on this topic. He seems willing to say a lot to her but stonewalled me with 'IDK man' and 'this is her decision'. My respect for P has plummetted. Not sure if it will...

New bit of thought. We need to explore the situation. How is it best that the first meeting with her crush go? Is it best if he and she meet face to face (long distance thing going on here) and test the water for chemistry? Or would it be better for all 3 of us to get together to discuss...

You see, it's those little gems of wisdom that makes me certain that I've come to the right place. NRE never occurred to me. Please, continue to hurl the blatantly obvious at me :) Truth be told, I'm having a hard time of it but I haven't really had time to examine my fears yet.