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Update #1 Thank you everyone for your advice and input. An update on our trio meeting are: -we discussed everything that happened and got everyones feelings, wants, and needs on the table. (one tiny bit of the elephant gone). -we also agreed that for right now that both bf and gf want to focus...

You are right Kevin, I have forgiven them and ready to work out the kinks and move forward. And I agree, trusting them is something that is going to take time. But I want to trust again, and I know that is a good start. Yes, this does dispel one of my fears and over time I believe I will be...

I am feeling better day by day. :) Thank you for asking. Today I am meeting with both of them together where we are going to openly and honestly talk about everything and everyone's wants, needs, and feelings. To my surprise, this was the initiative of not myself, but my bf, who wants to...

Yes, I do agree as well because I don't identify with one side of the fence or another. Slowly I am understanding this , especially with what you said about your bf. I admire you. :)

I agree. And being honest with myself right now is equally important. Thanks for you helpful input. :)

Yes, I am starting slowly to understand this about her and about myself. I don't fit into a box or label so I should not expect her too either.

Yes, I agree with you. Because they have owned up to this fact that at the end of the day they did not do the honorable thing and communicate with me ahead of time, my primary question for them was, when was the time going to be right to tell me? When you did tell me, would you have told me this...

This is something I can identify with. Both gf and bf have told me that they love me in soulmate way, but gf-bf say they love each other in a friend way? Is this what you mean by "growing at its own pace". -in your triad, what do you do to help the relationship with the third become move...

Yes and no, I did discuss with about me-bf not being intimate behind her back for a short while, while we were trying to figure out how to work as a trio. Gf response was "i don't care if you are intimate with bf without me, this is not something i have preference on" I now know this response...

@LovingRadiance- thank you for your thoughts on this and I like your idea. I am planning on trying to put this into action. :) And you are right, feelings change over time, and I am starting to realize slowly that there is hope on the other side.

@Galagirl- I understand and agree on what you are telling me on the heart garden. @snowmelt brought up a good point that I lot of this in the beginning was fear. 1. Fear my bf and gf would replace me(meaning they would decide they want a monogamous relationship with each other without me) and I...

Fear is not freedom. It would help you to decide what you really want, and talk about your fears more, rather than making more rules to protect you from your fears. What you have here is a "yes, go ahead, but not really - ok, but only when I..." situation. @snowmelt, yes you are right. fear...

@GalaGirl-Thanks for your help @GalaGirl, Thank you for your response. Now that I have shared what is going on with someone, I don't feel so alone. I am breathing a little bit more now. To clarify where I am right now, I have heard both versions from each of them separately on why this...

I am really in need of the opinions of others who can give me a different perspective on what is happening in my life. My long-term male boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years now (no children) and from the very start he knew I was a bisexual female. Because of this, over the 5 year...