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Unfortunately, Delia was a compulsive liar who believed her own lies. She didn't want a committed triad. She wants to use poly as an excuse to sleep around and cheapen herself, which is sad. I still think poly is a viable lifestyle for some people, but one thing I learned is that I am not one...

We never thought we could fix her. We believed that, while Delia had her baggage, she also had it under control and wanted to solve the problems she still had. You can want to help someone, but you cannot make them change, or solve their problems for them. I think she is looking for someone to...

Well, if we'd caught Delia in a lie in the first month, we wouldn't have stayed with her at that point. But we were already in pretty far, and the circumstances involving that first lie were... unique. She had some confrontation issues, and was scared we'd be angry. What she failed to realize...

Yeah, that's what I always thought of as being a troll, too... which is why I found it odd someone would call themselves one. LOL.

Replies go to my email, so though it seems you've since edited your post, I did read this bit: I don't even know what that means. My use of the word love is "to [sic] conventional?" I gather you thought better of this statement, but it was too late, because I'd read it. If my use of the word...

If three of your four children were conceived using condoms, I have to ask why is that the only protection being used right now? It doesn't seem like the best plan when it sounds as though none of you are ready yet for her to be pregnant. There are so many options to prevent pregnancy, and...

I'm not sure if you're accusing MY post of being a troll post, or if you're saying that you're behaving like one. Dan loved her. Delia lied. Repeatedly. He still loved her, but was no longer IN love with her. It happens, especially when you realize the person you love doesn't truly exist, which...

Thank you both. The relationship had its high points, and there are moments I'll eventually be able to remember without pain. For now, it's all a blur of hurt. I never wanted to share Dan. We met Delia. It was a unique set of circumstances. We all fell for each other (or at least we thought so...

Thanks, T & L. But I think we're best off mono, like we were before her. Dan and I share something very special, and as a result we have very high standards. Maybe they were always too high for Delia, though she didn't try very hard. I don't know. I only know we were both honest with her, and...

Delia and I mutually ended things three days after Dan broke up with her. She thought about how, if in a year, she and I were still good (which I doubt we would've been, but that's another story), she'd still go to bed alone nearly every night. I realized that, especially given the problems in...

We used a Celtic trinity knot or triquetra. I happened to have a tattoo of one when we met her, and it just became our thing.

Thanks, YGirl. I have to give it a try. I love her too much not to, despite her flaws.

Last year, my husband and I fell in love with a woman we met online. Initially, I was the one with feelings. He started off telling me he couldn't even imagine having a crush on another woman, let alone loving one, because I gave him everything he needed. He wasn't wrong about the latter part...

Has anyone been in a relationship that started off as a true triad, but changed to a vee? My husband Dan and I have been in a relationship with another woman (Delia) for a year, but a lot has happened, and he is no longer in love with her. He loves her, but not in a romantic sense. He is...

Feel free to PM me anytime... the funny part is, SHE was the poly one. We did not and do not identify as poly. We just happened to fall in love. Unexpectedly, and unplanned... but then isn't true love always that way?

Thanks... we are keeping the door open to something down the road. She has a lot of self-realization to do... we'll see how it goes. Between her kids and relationships, her life hasn't really been hers since she was 16... and she needs that for a while, I think, to figure out who she is and what...

It began as a fantasy, in a dream world where boundaries are pushed and limits of expression are tested. It became a wild, passionate, heady frenzy. The crescendo grew, and new love was realized amongst the joy and certainty of love that had defied all odds and lasted many years. The cold chill...

Part III So, we confronted her with all of this last week. I am scared that she doesn't have any clue whatsoever what love is... she's been drawn to very badly damaged people her entire life. She has two failed marriages under her belt. One was with a man who beat her, the other was with a man...

Part II But I had betrayed them, too. We all talked, and sorted it out. My husband and I are good now. We both behaved in ways that aren't characteristic for us... and it sucked, but I think we learned from it and grew as a couple and as individuals. Still, what I read does haunt me some. In...

The past couple of months in our triad have been rough. Our GF got a crappy new work schedule that results in her being gone from about 1:30 pm to 12:30 am. My husband works until 3:00, and until last week, I also worked until three three days a week. I lost my job, but that's a whole other...