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  1. garhdo

    So very torn (long post warning!)

    This mornings developments. So Mrs has been in touch with J this morning (B is still ignoring us both). Apparently it was S there last night, and J does still have feelings for him, and he knows this but doesn't believe that she is really in love with him. B is also unaware of this. She said...
  2. garhdo

    So very torn (long post warning!)

    Continued Last week me and J got our first chance to see each other in six months, as B agreed that she could see me. He doesn't trust me, perhaps because mine and J's relationship was more passionate than theirs, and so was very hesitant for a long time time and it took assurances that nothing...
  3. garhdo

    So very torn (long post warning!)

    Right I'm just going to type the full history of everything and my current feelings as its been a long time since I've posted anything here and a lot has changed. THIS IS A VERY LONG POST PLEASE BEAR WITH ME! Dramatis personae: *Me *Mrs - my partner of ten years. *J - currently ex-girlfriend...
  4. garhdo

    Should I let them fluid-bond?

    A bit of backstory (this is covered in more detail in my previous post 'My Poly Puzzle'): Mrs has another partner, A, that she met through a swinging site. They have been seeing each other for about four months now. Feelings have developed between them and they are pretty much exclusive to each...
  5. garhdo

    Relationship breakdown - How can I move on?

    Thanks for the support guys. I'm going to message her later with Galagirl's idea and see if I get a response. Lilac I understand where you are coming from. I keep remembering all the times we've been together, and thinking that I cant do things like even hugging her or kissing her is horrible...
  6. garhdo

    Relationship breakdown - How can I move on?

    That sounds like a good idea. i might give it a whirl. Thanks.
  7. garhdo

    Relationship breakdown - How can I move on?

    Hi. So I have made a few posts before about the complicated poly relationship that me, Mrs, J and B found ourself in, and about how B was unhappy with the whole thing. Well, since then B has decided that he doesn't want to have anything more to do with us. J, as his fiancee, has gone with...
  8. garhdo

    my poly puzzle

    I really appreciate the advice but there is a lot of it and I have a very busy working week but here is a quick reply. You've basically described B's viewpoint as I see it. It is very hard to get him to talk or open up in any way really. Even J has trouble with that and she is marrying him lol...
  9. garhdo

    my poly puzzle

    Right I'll try to answer this but I'm still learning all the terms so bear with me! Apologies have all been made for things in the past. B and me seem to be the ones with trust issues - me over Mrs and A, and B over me spending time with J. B is very emotionally closed and reluctant to talk so...
  10. garhdo

    Hey I had a look at ur brief profile after being caught by ur name and wondered if you wanted to...

    Hey I had a look at ur brief profile after being caught by ur name and wondered if you wanted to chat? What games do u play?
  11. garhdo

    How many is to many?

    unfortunately yes the 'number' does seem to still be important in relationships. Mine is significantly lower than all of my partners yet that isn't an issue for me. What annoys me is the disparity between how high numbers are viewed between men and women. women tend to find my low number...
  12. garhdo

    my poly puzzle

    Thats okay my friend I understand. I hope u find your peace with it. With me I am bi so I would like to join in on Mrs meets with other men, I even wanted to join with her and A before what happened as he is curious. But I will admit there is a jealousy thing there. I know B feels it as well and...
  13. garhdo

    How

    I suppose what you decide to do with ur bf depends on what the other girl's reason was for refusing involvement with you and ur SO, and whether you have been in touch with her since. ending his involvement in the relationship may well be necessary but it is also severe. Maybe you should discuss...
  14. garhdo

    my poly puzzle

    Hey everyone. Im posting this description of my poly relationship as I am still very new to this whole thing and struggling with certain aspects of it. Ill try to be as detailed as I can and I welcome any comments or advice offered. I have been with my Mrs for ten years come November. We got...
  15. garhdo

    My intro

    Thank you for the welcome.
  16. garhdo

    Hi guys...

    Welcome you guys, but Im curious as to what you mean by 'wrong side of the Atlantic'? Are you in UK/Europe or USA/Canada? I'm in the UK myself and while the poly 'community' doesn't seen as pronounced and public over here as it can be over there it is around, and poly relationships in my...
  17. garhdo

    My intro

    Hey everyone Im new here and thought I better introduce myself. I am a 26yo man from the UK who entered swinging with my partner of ten years late last year. we soon fell for another couple we met and began exploring things as a foursome. However it hasn't all been smooth sailing. We are still...
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