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    Banging my head against a wall. Chime in?

    It's nice to know that there are others who know what it's like being with someone who is Autistic. It can be trying at times. One of the main issues we've had is that I can sometimes go a while without hearing from him. I fully understand why as his logic tells him that he doesn't need to...
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    Banging my head against a wall. Chime in?

    A little back history. In a relationship of now almost 14 years (Same sex male couple), my alpha. To my side, I have what can only be described as a beta. Wasn't intentional, but we both enjoy it. My Alpha knows about him and he calls him my boyfriend and they're even pretty friendly with...
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    So where do I go from here? Starting out

    Reading in to this, a lot of what's written there is very well put but are also ideas that I had already thought of as "General common sense". I realize that common sense these days is in short supply, so I wont fault the writer for needing to post this. Most people these days dive head first...
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    So where do I go from here? Starting out

    So my primary and I have been together now for almost 13 years. I've always had a mind for poly, but kept that wish on the back burner like I have with other concepts in our relationship. Lately he's expressed the interest in finding a third which in all honesty shocked the crap out of me...
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    Wife wants Open Marriage

    Amk, my thoughts and well wishes are with you and your wife. *HUGS*
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    Recently Open, Looking for Support

    First off, expect the rules to chance. Both of you will find that what you feel is acceptable will slowly grow to encompass more situations and people. When we first went open, we were allowed to do very little by ourselves, a little bit of kissing someone else and that was it. Now we are...
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    I met someone, this is new for me.

    So basically keep on doing what I am doing. I'm trying to keep communication open as much as possible so we're all on the same page, especially with NewGuy. This is very new for me, but somehow it all feels logical how I need to handle it, very interesting indeed
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    Wife wants Open Marriage

    Amk, i've been following you post and feel that I have something to finally contribute. As to your question; My partner and I were monogamous for the first 10 years of our relationship (minus the one time I cheated on him). We had decided that after 10 years, we were ready to try bringing a...
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    Confused Newbie

    I'm in agreement with everyone here. Polyamory is about informed consent of every party involved and agreeing to whatever structure works best for everyone involved. If you're going in with the premeditation that you're going to be the wedge that separates them, then that's incredibly wrong...
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    Quest For Understanding

    I was in your situation when my partner said he wanted to sleep with other guys. I initially said I was perfectly fine with it and was ready to go all in, but I had some issues. The first night he didn't come home, I was enraged. We eventually made it past that hurdle and things have been...
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    Finding my way through this

    I'm relatively new to this, but I think there are some general ideas that can be created when you look at the situation from the outside. Jealousy can be something tough to deal with. I have never really fully gotten rid of my jealousy. I feel the tell tale pang when my partner goes to spend...
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    I met someone, this is new for me.

    So i've written on here before that I am currently in a relationship with my partner of almost 12 years and i'm now more open to the idea of being poly. To that end, I have started seeing another guy recently. A bit closer to my age and we have a LOT in common. He's also in a relationship...
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    A request: state your gender and sexual preference/orientation

    Male, Gay - Open - Poly - Partnered to one man for almost 12 years. Possibly looking for a third with us.
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    feeling down about the closet

    If he requires that kind of discretion, then I am by all means willing to accommodate that. I just don't want it to be unknown due to my own possible insecurities. I want to be open and honest for my own well being, so if he has a valid reason to not be, then that's different. I just don't...
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    feeling down about the closet

    I tend not to hide who I am. As i've gotten older, i've started using a Wanda Sykes line as my personal motto. She once said "The older I get, the less I give a fuck!" I know it may seem simplistic, but the happiest i've been has been completely eschewing everyone Else's concerns while...
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    Brand new here! YAY!

    Was referred to this site by xjustmymindx and I thought I would take a look around. My partner and I have been open now for about a year and a half and have been together for almost 12 years. We're very happy together and we're thinking about the possibility of bringing in a third if it feels...
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