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Not too bad. Kat had a night away this week, which bought up some negative feelings at the time, loneliness mostly. But a chat and some much needed reassurance and we are all good again. Sorry to be AWOL this week. Life kind of took over and, as I say, I wasn't in a constructive frame of mind.

Lol I'm not sure I would use me as a role model, Kat's away with her GF for the night tonight so I'm a bit of a mess.

And those sometimes wont go away altogether Aquarius, they just get further apart. It's one of the hardest mentalities to break, I still haven't moved past mono for my part, but I'm not in a rush too so that makes things less complicated. As I see it you and hubby have a strong relationship...

My situation, seems a little unique here. My wife (Kat) discovered her bisexuality about 6 months ago, we talked, argued, talked some more and she started seeing professional escorts to explore it. Things developed and she found an emotional need as much as physical, cue more talking etc...

Welcome Breath, I'm pretty new round here, but am old hands at forums online. Must say I have found nothing, but friendly people here. Your opening post was a great read and having just finished opening up am now getting a copy of the ethical slut. Glad to see you and your wife here.

Good to hear, Dust. I reached the same point about a month ago, so I know what a weight lifted it feels like. The energy that these arrangements, relationships can bring into your marriage are just brilliant. Glad you turned a corner, mate. Enjoy the wave.

Hi Aquarius, just saw you on Dust's intro thread. Hope your meeting goes well, you seem to be doing ok and that's giving me strength that I may aswell. Take care and have a good weekend.

Hope your weekend goes well, Dust. Keep chipping away at those negatives, mate. Hi, Aquarius. I hope you too find some light in the gloom. Where in Australia are you? Shows how sheltered my introduction to poly has been-- I didn't know there was anyone to talk to here. lol Be well, both of...

Personally I don't think it would help, I can obviously only speak for me, but I would say its risking transference, just putting your focus on somebody else would certainly stop me from being able to concentrate on myself. As I say that's just me and I suppose everyone has different journeys...

Kevin puts it perfectly. It's a big period of adjustment and takes time to get straight in your own head. I'm glad to read you had a better day yesterday, Dust. I have good ones and bad. Sometimes I can see this as the exciting journey it is and other days it feels like everything you held dear...

Sorry no, it was just a general question, apologies for the confusion, blame my ineptitude on the New Years hangover lol

The initial shock is always going to take time, communication, and then more time. When Kat talked to me about her wants and needs, every negative thought that could go through my head did, every worst case became the most likely. First up, I wonder why you think you have outgrown one another...

Hi Nycindie, I'm very new to the open relationship scene, I'm just curious as to the permission side of things. It seems to me permission implies ownership, I don't know much, but when Kat (my wife) and I talked about her seeing other people, it wasn't so much I could give permission, or consent...

Welcome, Dust, from one new member to another. Sounds like we have similar situations. I am here, if I can help at all, mate.

Hi Holiday, As the mono half of a combination primary it can be pretty hard to wrap your head round it all to begin with. When my wife first came to me and raised the subject she took a lot of time to explain what she was suggesting, why she was suggesting it and then gave me room to think and...

Hiya Julee, I can only really echo what Kdt said, communication and honesty are key. My wife followed a similar path to yours, coming to her bisexuality realization recently. We did the whole threesome thing, here comes the honesty, did I partake to support her exploration? Yes, I wanted her to...

Hi Kaiti, With very limited experience my only advice can be you need to focus on you. In your post you mentioned it was time to be honest with yourself and embrace your needs and wants, with that in mind you have to question if #2 is going to help or hinder your growth. When your trying to...

This always feels like one of those films where as you walk into the bar everything stops including the piano player.. So I suppose to begin its probably best to tell a short tale about who I am and what has bought me to this haven of acceptance. My wife and I have been in a mono relationship...