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Wow, Just wow. Thank you for the advice. I really find the poly community literally the best and most knowledgeable people about relationships that exists today. As if things couldn't get worse, I woke up this morning and Sarah wants to move to another state where it is warm. We live in NJ. Big...

First, thanks to all who took the time to read and reply. Yes, Sarah is a bitch. It's her personality. She has gotten better! She used to be worse. To the person who asked if there was cheating involved, sadly, yes. It started with an emotional affair then become limited physically for 8...

I come here looking for advice mostly because other people would not be so understanding of the pitfalls or complexities of attempting to be poly. It has been three years since my story started and we serve as a very good example of how not to enter into and experience a poly relationship. I...

First, thanks for all the responses! I will try to answer most of your questions. Yes, I agree I think this is an issue with me not accepting Sarah's introverted personality. I agree she shouldn't change entirely. However, her personality is what pushed me away, because I lacked what she could...

Can a poly relationship succeed when it involves two couples who are inherently very different? Quick summary. My wife and I have been involved with another married couple for some time. It started with me (39M) falling in love with my OSO, Sunny, due to my own marriage problems. Both...

I know some of the more senior members on here might remember me from the past couple years. After the past week, I thought it was a good time to post an update for others, as well as ask for some advice. If others are interested in my story just search the forums with my username. It's...

Thanks everyone! I am leaning towards having a more involved relationship with Sunny. Just a great feeling what our relationship brings to my life. I think I have evolved to the point I am comfortable. We shall see.

Yes, this was very accurate. I am somewhat embarrassed by those old messages, as it was a perfect example of how not to enter into a poly relationship. I did see a therapist who specialized in open relationships. It helped somewhat, but like marriage counseling, it got to a point I didn't feel...

Thank you for taking the time to respond! :) LOL Yeah, that about sums it up. I guess I have never experienced this. Being into someone with my mind and being so compatible. We think so much alike that sexual tension is easy to play with and escalate. It's fun as anything, but from the physical...

So, after a 1.5 year experience with polyamory, I am left questioning why things didn't work out. Primarily it was me out of the four partners who had problems with poly and eventually ended it. However, I continue to believe in this and question things. Primarily I ended the relationships...

It's been a while since I have posted here. If you search my previous messages, I shared how I was struggling with jealousy issues. I feel like I have really overcome them fully now, but have other concerns. My wife Sarah and I entered into this with another couple due to my emotional affair...

Well, I have been missing for a few weeks. I started the poly idea by falling in love with my wife Sarah's friend Sunny. Sarah decided to do the same with her friend's husband Sam. Since she decided, I had major problems with everything. I pretty much lost that special love for my Sunny during...

Hi. Really bad night. I lost it last night and told Sunny it was over. I told her it had become a friendship, that I'd lost the desire to be romantically involved with her, or to be physical with her. I'd just had another down moment when I struggled with why I don't feel that way. I reached...

I did not tell Sarah to stop. In fact, I first asked to slow things down to maybe being physical once a month. She didn't like that. So then, since I am starting basically a new career, I asked to take a break to I can 1) study for my new job and 2) stop hurting people with all my ups and downs...

Haha!! Too funny but I totally get it! I'll be working in NYC now and I certainly will drop a donation in there for ya. Although they won't stop singing!!

Wow, thanks, Minxxa. Hit the nail on the head, so to speak. That's why I think the break would be good, if even for a short while. This is some complicated stuff, but you know something? I used to suffer from anxiety attacks. Dare I say I have been cured? I have not needed OTC drugs in a year...

Wow, you are all right, dingedheart. You have followed my story well. Over-emotional response from the wife-- OMG YES! I had a busy business meeting all day and was not involved, but she went all MAD at the other two. She was mad at Sam for something stupid, BUT was harboring tons of anger...

Now this is out of control. I can see that Sarah is really upset. She is still in love with Sam, and being forced to stop. I asked her for a break, but she said deep down she knows it will never work for me. Sarah is talking about moving away. Never talking to them again. Saying it's the right...

I just asked her to not be physical with him. I won't take anything else away from her. This just sucks. The gravity of my situation is setting in and I feel horrible. I can't eat. I can't work. I just feel like dying.

Actually, to be clear, she has offered to end things before. I just kept trying. She told me she didn't want to hurt me anymore and wanted to work on us. So it took her some time to be able to do that. In her words, she thinks she caused damage to me and our relationship, but I don't feel that...