Monowife67
New member
My husband and I are in the beginning stages of moving into a poly relationship. He is poly, I am completely not. Over the years talks about the subject have not gone well, but I finally listened to his side, and we've been openly communicating about how this kind of things works.
He has been friends with a female for a number of years, and at first it made me uncomfortable, but then she had been dating a friend of his. That recently ended, and I asked if she was someone he'd considered. He admitted that he finds parts of her personality attractive, and they have had some very candid talks over the years. I know her and like and respect her as a person, so I decided I'd be okay if he wanted to see if she'd be interested in what he's after. I know she isn't a threat to our marriage, doesn't want a relationship, is very independent, and not at all clingy. Honestly, I'm at peace with this. Plus, it takes some of the scariness out of him looking for someone new to establish trust with, and that was a huge part of what scared me.
Anyhow, nothing has happened between them yet, but he assures me that when it does he'll be glad to share or not share as much as I'd like and am comfortable with knowing.
Just wanted to post a possible success story to an often awkward situation.
He has been friends with a female for a number of years, and at first it made me uncomfortable, but then she had been dating a friend of his. That recently ended, and I asked if she was someone he'd considered. He admitted that he finds parts of her personality attractive, and they have had some very candid talks over the years. I know her and like and respect her as a person, so I decided I'd be okay if he wanted to see if she'd be interested in what he's after. I know she isn't a threat to our marriage, doesn't want a relationship, is very independent, and not at all clingy. Honestly, I'm at peace with this. Plus, it takes some of the scariness out of him looking for someone new to establish trust with, and that was a huge part of what scared me.
Anyhow, nothing has happened between them yet, but he assures me that when it does he'll be glad to share or not share as much as I'd like and am comfortable with knowing.
Just wanted to post a possible success story to an often awkward situation.