I can understand the difficulty of scheduling things. Though one of the things that I appreciate about my boyfriend and Runic Wolf's girlfriend is that they do have kids, so they understand when plans have to be adjusted.
It can also be frustrating. Wendigo has a 15 year old and we have a 10 year old. They are in the same county, so their spring break was the same week. There are two days a week that we socialize with him in a friend setting - we host a weekly game here and then we participate in the same medieval combat sport on Thursday nights. Pretty Lady, Wendigo's wife works from home, so the weeks that the kids have off from school; he needs to be present to keep his son and his nephews out of her hair. This translates to changing our usual pattern of picking him up a few hours before those activities for quality time, to us picking him up right before. This week, my son's school decided to add in 2 half days at the last minute, so instead of us getting 4 hours of alone time while Runic Wolf was at work, we ended up with an hour and then spent the rest of the time working on projects in the workshop and hanging out with my son, who thinks of Wendigo as an uncle.
A couple of months ago, Runic Wolf started dating Loveleigh. She has 4 kids, 3 of whom live with her (12,10, and 3), and their school is in a different county so her kids are on spring break this week. That coupled with husband spending a week in the hospital last week for tests and her sister/ babysitter being hospitalized this week meant that he hasn't had any alone time with her in a couple of weeks. We did manage to go out to dinner with her, her husband, and his girlfriend tonight, but they only had an hour and a half to spare before a birthday party. We're still learning how to schedule time with her because she works nights and we work days. When they initially got together, Runic Wolf was working part time, but now he's working full time. We're still working out a schedule for them to get the time they need. I am committed to making sure they have it after realizing just how important it can be - almost 3 years of getting an hour here and there alone with Wendigo and going without for months at a time taught me that.
Runic Wolf and I have Friday nights kid free. Sometimes we go out to eat, sometimes we curl up on the couch and watch movies, but we also find ways to make the mundane stuff fun; we flirt and hold hands while shopping. And we have the best and sometimes silliest conversations late at night.
