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New to this, need help
- Thread starter warrior
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I am the secondary, in love with the male in the marriage. Brand new life style for my long time friends, introduced by the wife but now she is jealous. Any advice?
Not exactly easy to say anything if you don't wish to provide details. Just look up the tag "secondary feelings" and read around first.
AutumnLeaves
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Get coffee with her some time and talk to her about it using nonviolent communication. Maybe start the converation with, "I'm sensing some tension between us, is there anything wrong?" Be willing to listen to what she's saying, take it at face value, and work toward a solution. It's completely normal for people to experience jealousy.
Don't try to drag male into this (ask him to pass messages, take sides, etc) unless he's somehow contributing to the situation or you need him to help the two of you work on mutually amicable solutions. I've never found triangulation to be helpful.
Don't try to drag male into this (ask him to pass messages, take sides, etc) unless he's somehow contributing to the situation or you need him to help the two of you work on mutually amicable solutions. I've never found triangulation to be helpful.
Exactly my plan, coffee and non-threatening conversation. I need help more in so much as feedback from people's experiences as the significant other to the male of the couple. The wife has a girl significant other, however her husband has me (female). I understand a lot about her (I have known them both for a decade) I'm looking for insight from others in my shoes. How does it feel? What transpires as situations have unfolded? What works for you? Most importantly, how do you feel? I'm in love and very mature about this, trying to do a little research on my own, so far there's a lot of info for the central couple dealing with things..I was hoping to tap in on wisdom from people in similar situations. I want advice, stories, comrades….