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[reflectionofthatgirl]

Hi, I am reflectionofthatgirl. I am currently in a monogamous relationship and have recently decided to explore the option of polyamory. My SO has expressed his thoughts of not wanting to feel pigeonholed into anything. I have asked does he feel trapped in our relationship or like I am holding him back from doing what he wants. Or being with whom he desires and he says no.

However, trying to understand what he is feeling I hope to gain some insight. My goal is that I am able to see not only through his eyes but through the experiences of others, and how Polyamory works.

Hope you all can coach me and aid in opening up my semi-closed way of thinking.

 

[NovemberRain]

Welcome.

I admire you for reaching out and attempting understanding. I find this place to be full of education and insights (and quite a few laughs along the way!).

 

[polypenguin]

hi there, welcome!

have you read any books on being poly? If not I highly suggest it. "The Ethical Slut," is sort of the standard for the baisic ideas of being poly. But my favorite is "Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and Hopeful," it is by Anthony Ravenscroft, and you can order it through most books stores. It is the most logical outlook on the pro's and con's of being poly that I have seen in a book thus far.