Poly and married in Bible belt-- triad, quad?

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darthsabbath

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Hi, I just joined.

I have a question that's been bothering me for some time. I have been happily married to a beautiful woman for about 5 years. We've explored swinging with other women and couples, and while it's been loads and oodles of fun, it's not what either of us are really looking for long term. We want more, ideally, one other person, or another couple, as additions to our happy family.

The big concern we have is where to start.

As background, we live in the deep South. We are polyamorous. My wife is bi. We're into BDSM. I am an atheist. So in short, we're about one step below eating babies and worshipping the debbil in the minds of our fellow Bible-belters.Neither of us know how to begin to ask someone out and how/when to bring up that we're married and polyamorous without alienating everyone we know.

Any advice, oh wise and wonderful forumistas? :)
 
This isn't the answer you're looking for, but I'm curious as to why you live where you do. There must be something about that location that appeals to you or you could just move someplace where folks are more open-minded or don't care so much what other people's lifestyle-choices are.
 
The answer comes down to, we were born here and don't have the resources to move at the moment. We are attending a university that is paying for my bachelor's and her master's degrees. I have a job lined up in Washington, DC after graduation, and believe me, we're counting the days until we can get out of here.
 
I know where you are coming from. I am an atheist who was in a BDSM-type relationship while living in Georgia. We talked about polyamory, but we never knew where to start. I recently talked to someone who went to my high school in Georgia. I found out that he and his wife are polyamorous atheists, but they are deep in the closet. So I imagine that there may be many people around you that are hiding it, as well. Sometimes, some leading conversations may show you who is in the closet.

There are some polyamory groups that meet up. You can find some on social networking sites and hope one is in your area. There are some dating websites that may help. They are in some of the other threads on this board. Also, if you are into podcasts, you should check out Polyamory Weekly. The host is into polyamory and BDSM.
 
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