Reparation

[MrFarFromRight]

For the record:

I find that anybody who can't get their head around the fact that there might be some doubt about what somebody else means by "fluid bond" is strangely lacking in imagination. (I coloured that section blue because the sentence got rather long, and maybe it's easier to understand if the blue bit is taken as a unit.)

This is NOT the issue of this thread, but senior members have ridiculed the OP for having these doubts. "Fluid bond = fluid bond. No ambiguity involved."

RiverGoddess has just dealt with this, but her case involved a penis (which might be leaking semen) being rubbed on the outer labia of a vagina. Theoretically, and against the odds, this could lead to pregnancy, which might have very negative consequences for all concerned.

But let's consider a pagan couple who believe that ALL body fluids are holy and to be shared only with primaries. (Do pagans believe in primaries?) This would nix cunnilingus and fellatio with secondaries. (Not to mention vampirism... or overly enthusiastic hickies.)

Fear of herpes might rule out kissing. Or, there's that old cliché of the prostitute who refuses to kiss clients, because "that's something reserved for my husband". Why limit that rule to prostitutes?

I hope that this might

be helpful to future readers who could stumble in here looking for answers or help on fluid bonding.

At a stretch, the term might even be used in an analogous way, where no fluids are concerned, but "this little corner of sexual practice is to be reserved for the inner group".

 

[anita]

I also hope you continue to participate here, in other threads, and won't just disappear.

PS - I don't get the oversensitive and sobbing bits. Are you being serious? I really can't tell.

Thanks! I plan to, although I have to limit myself as I have a history of becoming overly entangled in virtual spaces. I wasn't being serious, oops, I don't think my brand of humor translates very well into text!

I'm sorry for remaining vague, it's just that I don't feel comfortable removing another person's ability to control what information people know about them. Some points were frustrating not to be able to clear up, actually, because at times they cast my partner in a worse light than I would want.

I found each individual version of advice to be very relevant and helpful in its own way, even though those giving it weren't sure of some specifics. I'm very glad for all of the unequivocal support offered right from the start of the thread until the end, despite any confusion. Hugs all around! (If consented to.)