How do I deal with my heartbreak?

[jones]

I'll try and recap everything. Last October, Bob and Jane broke up with me and my primary Gaz.

I was the person who was blamed. This broke my heart. Bob said he couldn't not see one of us (Gaz) and not the other person (me). I begged, pleaded for months for them both to talk to me, but I got nothing but angry texts from them both.

But Gaz got messages from Jane. She said I meant too much to her, so she ignored me. It hurt her less. How would this really hurt less, knowing I was hurting and her knowing she was ignoring me? This really hurt me, but still she carried on.

Fast forward to now... Gaz isn't allowed to see Jane alone. Bob doesn't trust them both. But she can see me alone. I asked Bob if he wanted to see me for a drink and he ignored me. That was weeks ago. Gaz says I need to keep trying, keep texting, but I can't.

I had my birthday last December. I saw her two days before my birthday, so she knew. I didn't even get a happy birthday text. But when she was dating Gaz, he got a card and present. I don't even get a text.

I keep seeing Jsne text Gaz, and now she has agreed to have a MSN date to talk, to which I am going out for, so I can't be there while they just talk about each other.

Gaz and Jane saw each other a few weeks ago. B was there. She texted him today saying she wished she could have put her arms around him, etc., but I don't get this.

This hurts so damn much. It seems like they don't even care how this is affecting me. Gaz thinks its ok for me because I have Arlo, my bf, but it is not easy. It is just as heartbreaking, I want J to say she loves me, or does she not love me anymore, but she won't. I have lost someone who I thought was my best friend and my girlfriend, but it feels like I didn't mean anything to her.

 

[learninginTN]

I read your post twice, and I'm still not sure I understand all the dynamics. But suffice it to say this seems to be a mess of jealousy, insecurities, and heartache all the way around. Perhaps it would be best for you and Gaz to get away from this couple totally, and concentrate on other, more grounded and secure relationships.

 

[jones]

I read your post twice, and I'm still not sure I understand all the dynamics. But suffice it to say this seems to be a mess of jealousy, insecurities, and heartache all the way around. Perhaps it would be best for you and G to get away from this couple totally, and concentrate on other, more grounded and secure relationships.

Hi. Thanks for replying. Sorry my post wasn't clear. It is a big mess and its hard to write it down.

I want to move on and not talk to them, more Bob than Jane. I still love her so much, that is why it hurts so much. I would say our relationship outside this mess is very secure and happy. I do wish I never met them. The only thing I gained was Arlo, because they knew him and introduced us.

I spoke to Jane, via text, of course, as I can't see her. I told her how I feel. She said just because she doesn't text me doesn't mean she doesn't think about me.

I wish I could clear my head of all this mess and, like Gaz said, don't let it bother me. But it hurts.