Hi everyone. Hmm. Introductions, not terribly good at those but let me try but stay on the topic of this forum?
My first long relation was poly - me, the woman who became my fiance, and our best friend / my best man who eventually became her husband instead while I was sent in a different direction. I don't blame polyamory for that - some things work out, some things don't. No one can take anyone from you, only you can lose each other, which is what happened. I wish them all the best from my whole heart.
My next relationships.. tried for poly (because I can't do monogomy. It is fine for those who can, my mind and heart don't work that way, whatever the reason). Each girl I dated tried too but they were just not poly - the jealousy was there and we parted ways before anyone could get hurt too badly. (I am still very good friends with each of these and we talk often)
And then I met my partner last year, we fell in love.. and she was really not jealous. She had never been poly before. She had cheated on a number of boyfriends because she could not be with just one person and didn't know there was another option.. and the first time I helped her meet a playmate and held her before and after they played... she was incredibly happy. And I was too the first time she did the same for me.
Recently we met another girl, quite possibly our unicorn.. They get along! This one was monogomous too before but she fell in love with me (I made no secret of what I was or my relationship), and then they talked.. They are very different from each other, but there is no jealousy there, they are genuinely both trying to find common ground, and there is zero catiness, none! Both are kinky, both support me, my original girl is grinning ear to ear for a 'sister'.. They are trying to make this work. I don't know if it will, I really don't, but we are all trying, and we will see where it takes us. It makes me so very happy!
So why am I here? That's a topic for another thread in another section, because there are two big questions over my head. I've been reading up on polyamory for years, been practicing it to some degree, love 'Opening Up', have poly friends, but now that I'm this position I'm still finding myself in territory I was not expecting. Hope someone will be able to help!
And for all of you along this journey.. thank you for the company, and it will be beautiful. We will make it so!
My first long relation was poly - me, the woman who became my fiance, and our best friend / my best man who eventually became her husband instead while I was sent in a different direction. I don't blame polyamory for that - some things work out, some things don't. No one can take anyone from you, only you can lose each other, which is what happened. I wish them all the best from my whole heart.
My next relationships.. tried for poly (because I can't do monogomy. It is fine for those who can, my mind and heart don't work that way, whatever the reason). Each girl I dated tried too but they were just not poly - the jealousy was there and we parted ways before anyone could get hurt too badly. (I am still very good friends with each of these and we talk often)
And then I met my partner last year, we fell in love.. and she was really not jealous. She had never been poly before. She had cheated on a number of boyfriends because she could not be with just one person and didn't know there was another option.. and the first time I helped her meet a playmate and held her before and after they played... she was incredibly happy. And I was too the first time she did the same for me.
Recently we met another girl, quite possibly our unicorn.. They get along! This one was monogomous too before but she fell in love with me (I made no secret of what I was or my relationship), and then they talked.. They are very different from each other, but there is no jealousy there, they are genuinely both trying to find common ground, and there is zero catiness, none! Both are kinky, both support me, my original girl is grinning ear to ear for a 'sister'.. They are trying to make this work. I don't know if it will, I really don't, but we are all trying, and we will see where it takes us. It makes me so very happy!
So why am I here? That's a topic for another thread in another section, because there are two big questions over my head. I've been reading up on polyamory for years, been practicing it to some degree, love 'Opening Up', have poly friends, but now that I'm this position I'm still finding myself in territory I was not expecting. Hope someone will be able to help!
And for all of you along this journey.. thank you for the company, and it will be beautiful. We will make it so!
