What is fair communication?

Try seeing about scheduling equal time with him and you, her and you, her and him alone, and the three together. that way its fair for everyone and she won't have any excuse to be upset
 
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The holidays were a bit difficult as she was more busy than usual with kids in town. . But generally i have pretty equally time with both of them. .. but naturally that they live together she n he share more time. .. I'm not one to fret over that n have enjoyed that as well n although they are closeted they have made a space for me in their home from time to time. . It was just when she started feeling sad about small moments that i started wanting to run a tally. . Childish i know
 
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Am I wrong?
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I'm having a *really* hard time making sense of what you've written here. I think I understand that you're in a triad in which it is at least perceived that there is 1) competition and 2) piss poor communication filled with rumors and silent hurt feelings. Am I close?

Either way, if what I have pried from your post is correct, it falls to you to take a look at your expectations and to get your assumptions in check... then take reasonable action based on your new information

If you want to be heard then speak up
If you want to know something then ask the question
If you don't want second hand information then shut it down when it comes to you
If you don't want to be in a competitive relationship then stop competing​
 
The second hand info is what they share with each other about what i share with them privately. .

Sorry i was vague. . Needing help to sort this out so was vague in case they found their way here. . As i said they are closeted so i didn't want to betray that. .
 
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