Is this a weird thought? Husband moving into the basement?

[powerpuffgrl1969]

Ms. Emotional, in a previous post you had mentioned that you have a need to be to working towards progression in your relationships.

Sometimes, you need to step OFF the relationship escalator for a while, in order to acclimate.

Every couple of weeks it seems there is a new problem in your polycule. This is to be expected at the beginning, but these problems need to be ironed out as much as possible before cohabiting. Remember, it's not just you and Ponytail; other people (including your children) will be affected as well.

Just BE for a while. Enjoy what you HAVE, in the here and now, without worrying about what comes next.

 

[MsEmotional]

Ms. Emotional, in a previous post you had mentioned that you have a need to be to working towards progression in your relationships.

Sometimes, you need to step OFF the relationship escalator for a while, in order to acclimate.

Every couple of weeks it seems there is a new problem in your polycule. This is to be expected at the beginning, but these problems need to be ironed out as much as possible before cohabiting. Remember, it's not just you and Ponytail; other people (including your children) will be affected as well.

Just BE for a while. Enjoy what you HAVE, in the here and now, without worrying about what comes next.

Yep, this is what I talked to my therapist about the other day too. It's a weird feeling for me, to not be planning the next life phase. I've been like that my whole life as far back as I can remember -- and in all areas of my life too, not just relationshios. It's hard to live in the present, but it's never been a problem before. I hadn't realized it was so much in conflict with poly and so I am brainstorming some ways to keep myself more grounded in the present.