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I am not sure what she gets out of the relationship, either. I think on some level it is the feeling of being needed. She seems to play so much of a motherly role. It was the same with her ex-husband as well. He was very needy too. I think at first she likes that feeling, but than I think it...

Sorry, I tried to do the quote thing. I did it wrong. I am not forum savvy yet.

We have known him for two years. We met him together when we were out one night. He was nice and fun to hang out with. He gave me his number. We all hung out a lot as friends. My partner found him fun and attractive and asked me if it would be okay if she asked him out on a date. I loved the...

:) You almost got it right. I never told her she could not be with other women. That was what she told me she wanted. If she said she wanted to see other women, it would be harder, but I would be okay with it. I am not sure why he says he doesn't want her seeing other men if he moves in. Maybe...

LOL Sorry, my feelings for him confuse me sometimes, as well. You're not the only one. I love him, but it's a complicated emotion. I am not sure what that love means for me... or how to express it. It takes on different meanings all the time. Sometimes he is like a brother, almost, and other...

I wish that we could split houses, but we have two children, and one is disabled. It is very hard to go days at a time without another adult there to help me. I am very willing to stay home while they go out on dates two nights a week, or even more. What's important to know is that he...

:) I'm sorry. I didn't mean to make it sound like I was referring to her BF as an object. He is not, by any means, an object or without feeling. I love him and care for him very much. I think it might have come across that way, because I am trying to avoid posting too much emotion.

Thanks for your reply, NYCindie. I know that we don't have to move anyone in. I always feel a little bit torn between what will make me happiest and what will make my partner happiest. She has a BF in mind that she would like to have live with us at some point. Her request was that I consider...

Thanks to everyone for your posts. :) I see now that I also misused some terminology. Although I am not very new to poly, I am still new enough. I am new to having a name for it and being able to have people to talk to about it, so I never really learned what labels other people used to explain...

I am going to first say that the name calling is not Ok! She can't expect to have a grown up conversation with you, if she is going to act like a child. I would agree with the above post to say that she might see marriage as an entirely different entity than you do. I am sure it hurts for her...

This is a great conversation : ) I find all of this so interesting to read. I have a very similar conversation with my friends and my family quite frequently. I don't know anyone who has been in a long term mono relationship which I am defining as (10+ years) that hasn't cheated, or been...

New to this, and new to here, but I read plenty of the post. I can see how a "sub-forum" would be very helpful.... It's a good idea : )

It's not easy. I was born and raised in NYC (where it seems everything goes), and met my partner in WI, where eople didn't really care what we did. After living there for a few years, we moved to GA. Wow, that was culture shock. I thought people were gonna chase us with a pitchfork. LOL. It was...

Thank you for taking the time to read and answer all of my questions. It is nice to have feedback and perspective from an outsider. I am going to check out the links now. Thanks. :)

I have lived and will be living in the North GA area again at the end of the summer. I grew up in NY and I am here for school right now, but my partner and I live year round in North GA. I couldnt tell you very much about other people there, because we don't know any other people like us there...