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It's not uncomfortable for me at all for acquaintances. But would you not be turned off by your significant other sleeping with someone you do not like or are not comfortable with? I really can't put a finger on it but yeah it bothers me to know if someone I love goes and hooks up with someone...

That's what it does sound like. It really just comes down to communication for me. I would never feel those things towards anyone. I am a very open person and like to think I'm pretty logical. For instance, I would never want to get with a person she doesn't like personally, only because I feel...

I don't want control over anything just communication about how that would make either of us feel.

I completely agree with that. I have ran it past her. She doesn't like that idea of communicating before hand to find out how her or I would feel about the situation. Again only to people that we know mutually. She agreed that she would tell me after but yeah I just feel like that completely...

We have broken up and she wants to start from square one. She thinks we dove into our relationship too fast and doesn't want things to end badly given her past poly relationships.

So again I am brand new to polyamory and I was the secondary to a married couple. We hit a situation where an mutual friend flirted with her and I let her know I would not be okay with her getting together with that particular person. I did not handle it with any grace what so ever though. I did...

I also want to add that she doesn't believe in a hierarchy.

I'll definitely check that out. This is her first serious relationship outside of her marriage since then being poly.

Do you think it would be over stepping my boundaries to bring up some of these things?

I strongly agree with all the things you have said. I do not want kids with her quite yet. I was just saying I could see that in the future. I know it's pretty easy to think only 2.5 months is premature to have these feelings. I have always been the same way in my life and with all my...

I could see that as a natural human reaction to the situation.

I don't think that is the case, but I don't know him at all.

Thank you very much and I completely agree.

I would personally love being there. I love her to the point where I just want what she wants in this. I haven't meet with him, or talked with him yet, but I would like to. She has told me that he is having a rough time with her and my relationship because of how close we have gotten. I guess...

We have talked a little about it, and as I said, I want to be there for her. But I am really scared of the the situation.