Recent content by afraidtoloseher

Thank you both for your insights. This is a deeper issue than I originally thought and its going to be hard, but the truth is we havent been happy for a long time and no need to add more pretzels as you put it. We've talked about counseling. But she doesn't really believe therapy and...

Just saw your second reply Gala...oh god that just hits so close and hard. I can't believe I've let myself be treated this way. I was the guy that always beat the bullies to a pulp, without question. It only took a few times...how did I become the abused one? Everything you said was so spot...

Galagirl, holy shite, i cant even believe how dead on you are in your reply...wow. Yes, despite the so called "benefits" i think i would be enjoying, it does make me physically and emotionally sick and I feel like an idiot and a prude for reacting like this...but much like vomiting, its beyond...

Thx Kevin for the kind words and the links. Ive been reading through for the past hour or so and the ted talk was good too. Basically ive been given an ultimatum: if i dont allow this, then the relationship as we know it ends. She turned it around and said it was ME who would be ending it...

Thank you all for the sound advice. I knew she was poly when we met, but didn't care really because i figured i would move on in a year or so anyway like i always did when single. I was about to end it, but she came up pregnant, so i did what i thought was right and commited, for better or...

First, thanks for having me. Im a vanilla (her words) mono guy with a poly wife who has been faithful to me for 5 years, and given me two beautiful children. She convinced me to let her start pursuing other interests, and it seems to have gone all wrong. She went out with a guy, and after...