Recent content by ALpolyman

Great, thanks for the advice and reading/watching material!

My wife and I have been contemplating poly in some form for over a year now and have yet to actually do anything about it. The primary reason is my wife is working on some personal things and I agree she needs to work those things out (counseling is helping). She's very interested but...

I've done quite a bit of reading off and on over the last 6 months or so. I think I've read just about everything on morethantwo. I'll check out "The Ethical Slut". Do you have any other recommendations? More than anything though, I think for us, talking about it and waiting a while...then...

Despite my name, my wife and I aren’t polyamorous, yet. We were going to pursue it, but she’s working on building her business and is working out some personal issues. Anyway, neither of us has had any other partners yet. But if I did, I’d prefer shaved parts. I really don’t know why I’m so...

I just want to put a different spin on this, aside from the hygienic reasons. I don't intend to sound conceited, or better than anyone else, but I don't want to look like an ape. I'm not overly hairy, but I love how it feels to be cleanly shaven. And skin-on-skin with a partner feels so much...

Well, I guess we have two different points of view…at least partly. While we have tried to envision what we want, I submit that I cannot ignore the negative consequences, unintended or otherwise. I tend to think as a realist…meaning that I know what I’d like to have but figuring out how I can...

Actually our preference would be someone we could, at a minimum, call a friend...I suppose FWB. But, the experience really needs to be a mind, body, soul connection. The physical, without the rest, somehow seems empty (maybe because I've never done that before). We also look to have a "repeat...

idealist, Great response and you definitely put a different perspective on it. One thing I have to overcome is my wife's negativity. That's not a slam at all. She is her own worst enemy sometimes and I'm usually the chearleader saying "yeah, you can do it". I've had to learn to become a...

Can the same be said for women wanting another mate (woman or man) other than the one she has?

As my name suggests (ALpolyman) that at least I, or my wife and I, are poly. Well, I guess that's a bit of a misnomer now. Let me explain. We determined a long time ago that we both desired to have a woman to love (more than just sex) in a triad fashion. In trying to make a triad happen, we...

Wow, good responses all. This at least preps me for the possibilities. Thanks! Oh, and to the comments for the 6 dogs. We already had 3 Yorkies but the last 3 dogs are rescues...one is a Spitz that was thrown out at 5 weeks old, the other is a blind husky, and the last one is a...

I'm married to my wonderful wife of 4 years and we've recently discovered that we want to try poly. We have no children but have 6 dogs...yeah we're into animal rescue. During the week we work, clean during weekends, take care of the dogs, etc. Though I don't know what it's like to have...

I don't want to come off as rude but I don't understand the whole hating labels thing. Maybe it's because we're new to this. I'm not pro label or against labels...I just see it as "it is what it is". My wife is my wife and nothing will change that unless we got divorced of course. She has a...

I'm glad I found this! I'm 34 and I have shaved "down there" for 15 years now. I've always hated having hair there. Last year, I asked my wife about what she'd think if I shaved from the neck down. She was indifferent about it, but stated she helped her ex shave. So I took the plunge, and...

While my wife and I haven't had any poly experiences yet, I'd have to say the reason I'm poly, or want to practice poly, is that I continue to have this burning desire to meet other women, date them, get to know them, make love to them, do things with them, etc, etc. And when I say burning, I...