Recent content by Ashlyn

It does feel like I’ve done more than my fair share. He’s not the best at analyzing/sharing his feelings and I’ve always helped him out that way. Now I feel like I have to communicate for all three of us and I’ve only met her three times. (She’s mono and recently came from a bad relationship.)...

When I refer to a position of power I mean that he currently has a better set of choices with less severe consequences than I do due to our circumstances. Thank you for the reminder. I was once very aligned with this core belief and lived my life accordingly. I lost part of myself in our...

Thanks for your support nycindie. I don’t completely agree, but it’s productive to have another perspective on things. It’s great to finally have somewhere I can communicate freely about my situation and get helpful advice and ideas on how to proceed. Thanks everyone for the warm welcome.

Thanks kdt26417, I think my partner would really appreciate all of that.

This thread is helpful for me because I have this problem as well. My partner is in NRE with his new girlfriend and they’re constantly texting each other. I don’t text him when they’re together because I don’t like when it happens to me and I think it would be selfish of me to disrupt their...

I did agree to this concession on a temporary basis to allow him time to process his feelings about it. It’s now several years later and when I asked him about it he said that he is only able to process his negative feelings towards this when there are small amounts of controlled exposure that...

I will check those out, thanks.

I’m working on writing my back story and am finding it difficult to keep it concise. I find that the details can greatly change how a situation is viewed. A “brief” description is that we agreed to an open relationship from the start. I believed that an open or poly relationship style made the...

Don’t mind me; I’m just a tad socially awkward sometimes. I’ll definitely check out some more of the "Life Stories & Blogs" section. I’ve been trying to only pick the most positive sounding entries, but have not been having the best of luck.

Hello HappilyFallenAngel, I'm most interested in hearing about what has worked for others and I think what some people may consider uninteresting may be uplifting and inspiring for others. Please don’t be alarmed if I proceed to check out a bunch of your previous posts.

Hi JaneQSmythe, The active decision was made to be open from the start, (we didn’t really know about poly then) but we were just so focused on each other that others didn’t seem to appear on the radar I guess. Add to that the programming/conditioning from society that we should conform to a...

I’m new and not very experienced with poly. I’m in a committed 11 year relationship that began as open, but has been practiced as mostly mono for a number of reasons. Recently we’ve been drawn to re-evaluating our reasons for acting basically mono all this time and are having some difficulties...