Recent content by AzureKnight

The meaning of a term varies by context or rather, the nuances will vary depending on the group that is using it. In heavily patriarchal groups, "cuckold" still very much means a man whose wife has cuckolded (cheated on him) and there's shame applied to the man; the implication for those groups...

That's a great start. Continue discussing what marriage means to you (and to him) and what you would expect and want out of being married. Explore what assumptions you may have about what marriage is to each of you. You mentioned wanting to share the rest of your life with him -- a life...

Congratulations on your fourth! I chose very early not to even try alcohol due to familial history, something of stuck with my whole life.

If they're willing to continue to have the conversation -- that's a great sign. Explore his concerns with him. Let him talk about them, mostly listening and interjecting with whatever he needs be comfortable to keep going in the conversation. Be prepared to let the conversation stop for a...

The other responses seem to answer Lennie's question well. I wanted to respond to Spork: Additional Prefixes: Allo- (as in allosexual -- any person who is not asexual, demisexual, or gray-asexual, etc.) Cis- (as in cisgendered -- denoting or relating to a person whose self-identity conforms...

Sounds like DH prefers to keep different parts of his life separate. Professional/Work is one world, his life with you is another, his FWB(s) is another. However, you want your experiences to be together, that DH be part of your life with your OSO and vice-versa. You and DH will need to talk...

My situation is similar to yours, my girlfriend is also married; and polyamory is a relatively new experience for me. I second Kevin's recommendation for "More Than Two". That's a great book -- all the portions I've read have been helpful to me. The blog post "10 Realistic Rules... was helpful...

I agree with AutumnLeaves. As time goes on the anxiety will likely fade. I experienced a lot of anxiety at first but those faded. Talking about your anxieties will help -- often as you talk about it they fade and if they don't, you can talk through until you understand where it is coming from...

Hmm. I think I should do some in depth reading. Are there recommended, well cited, substantive books on wellness care for everything "down there"? Feeling like I should know more than I do.

I'm not well endowed. I'm told my bend is unusual in that it angles upward instead of to the side. We've wondered if I irritate the urethra that way. I don't think of myself as particularly aggressive. However, I do have an issue with taking too long to come. Possible the combination of these...

I'm hoping the collective wisdom here point me in a direction. My former partner and I were together exclusively for about 20 years. During that time she had UTIs often, one was especially bad, having them monthly. Doctors were consulted and antibiotics were prescribed but causes weren't...

Which kind of friend? Broadly there are friends I may go to events with or play cards with; but those kinds of friendships tend to be ephemeral. For the other kind, I want a high level of emotional intimacy, generally I know when that happens by what I'm willing to tell them about myself.

I'd like to hear more about this one. I'm not sure I understand it. Is it something like "we think about things in a parallel way"? I feel it is difficult to discern the difference between "courting a friend" and "courting a romantic/sexual partner", objectively observed, many of the behaviors...

It does help to explain. :). I'm wondering if 'touch first' is a thing for some people who has 'touch' as a love language. I have touch as a love language but I am cautious about touch as a result. It takes a certain amount of intimacy (or an effort to be understanding of someone that needs...

There's so many interesting aspects of this thread I'm going to have difficulty being concise -- its also 4:30 in the morning -- but here goes. My first post too! Nothing will go wrong with this plan... Probably what makes it confusing is that there are multiple spectrums of measure involved...