Recent content by B&JENM

Wow Bobbi. This was really perfect advice. I needed to hear all of this. Everything was on point. Thank you so much!

Hello. I am married to Jay. My boyfriend is Dalton. Dalton and I have been dating for 5 months. We have done everything except intercourse, due to his erectile dysfunction (ED). Well, he has done things to me, anyway, since I can’t return the favor. We think it’s psychological. He is able to...

Thank you Kevin. Your response feels very supportive. I have a lot to learn!

Yeah, I was using throuple incorrectly. They are both straight. I’m working on the resources and learning more. It takes time. I changed the title.

Hi there, I’ve posted about my situation in various forms, but I have a new question as things change over time. My nicknames keep changing too.. ha Jay and I are married. I have a FWB with Dal. Jay has not yet found a FWB. Jay and I stay together, as we have our intimate relationships with...

So far, the break has been about 2 weeks. We plan to continue our break for quite a while, as my husband and I have couple's therapy to do before moving forward with ENM. The therapist is an ENM/sex therapist. I’m just thinking ahead at this point… Thanks for your response!

Okay, so you are right. I think it’s going to be tough!!! I’m in therapy now, so maybe they can help me figure it out?! I literally pursued therapy to figure out how to handle all this ENM stuff. I may figure out I’m more of a lover than a sexer. I’ll post back if I find the magic solution.

I have a new FWB, Bob, who started as my FWB. We haven’t been friends for long and have not had full sex. It turns out we have a lot in common and I find him very interesting. He also has a lot in common with my husband. He’s like me and my husband in one person. So weird. His son is my...

Smart. Rational. I’m kind of out of the NRE now that we haven’t talked for a few days. THANKFULLY. That was scary and unexpected. But yes, I definitely agree it’s a chemical reaction: this guy is totally fun, we have some things in common, and he seems to be good to have as a friend. But our...

Bobbi, I want to say again this was really good advice and you said some things I think I needed to hear…my husband also agrees strongly with the points you made. Btw, shrum and I did go very deep in our conversations. That actually happened the first night of meeting him. I’m usually a...

Also I edited above…i was looking for advice.

I checked out the Multiamory podcast. Omg!!!! That’s great. Thanks for sharing!

Thanks again, Magdlyn. You may be right about me being just a lover. I'm hoping that slowing way down and taking our time before getting intimate again will help: we haven’t had sex but have messed around. I'm hoping the FWB works for me with a little therapy/support to work in strategies to...

Thank you Kevin. It helps to normalize the experience IMO. Makes me feel less crazy. Your words were very helpful.

Nailed it Bobbi! I think so, anyway. This was what I was thinking and planning on, slowing WAAAY down. It did feel like a drug certainly, and I had withdrawal symptoms for a few days after we decided it was necessary to take a break. Today I feel back to normal, thankfully.