Well that’s the thing, I have a friend who’s partner is really large that I kind of talked to about this and she told me when they first dated he could only get about 50% inside her, but now that they have been together for a year it’s like they are a perfect fit but it took time. The problem...
My connection with my husband (primary) is totally different, and I like it that way, so I get what you are saying. Maybe it’s normal for women to feel like we are being unfair at first. I don’t really know. I just know it’s how I feel right now.
My primary is someone who is very special to me. I could never even envision my life without him in it. We are new to the poly lifestyle, after being monogamous for a decade, and it’s been fun so far.
But then I met this guy, and the sex is amazing. That’s really all there is between us...