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I'm not sure that the feeling you're describing is jealousy. I don't want to project too much, but I had a similar experience with my ex partner George and his partner Gina. Similar to what you described, I hadn't thought much about her and didn't feel a curiosity to meet her on my own, but...

I can understand feeling pressured into reciprocating the level of involvement that he seems to want, especially since you take on the dominant role in scenes and may adopt a sort of caregiving mentality toward him to a degree. It makes sense that you would feel torn between reciprocating for...

First, thanks to everyone who has been here for me. It's been a few weeks now and I definitely feel better about the fact that things ended, if still a bit annoyed by the way that things ended. I do apologize for going MIA for a moment. Besides the breakup, a LOT of other things happened three...

George and I met for lunch today. He expressed feeling like his partner (me) doesn’t want to be with him, and that he doesn’t like that feeling. Following almost immediately by: so maybe we should break up. Once he said those words I sort of just gave up. The conversation we had two weeks ago...

I'm wondering why the option of everyone playing together is back on the table? On the one hand, I guess it's a good thing not to be completely closed off to any option. But you mentioned in the beginning of this post that the triad dynamic didn't really work in the past, and I remember you...

Sigh. Two out of three ain't bad. George works at the bar as a bouncer on weekends. He's more of the stoic, stand-alone, "who the hell is that" kind of character. He's certainly charismatic when engaged, though he doesn't typically initiate things. At least not directly. Though to be fair, as...

I agree. It isn't reasonable to change other people's behaviors to fit my expectations. I did tell George that I don't want to prescribe his behavior; that my goal isn't his compliance. I don't know that I expect mind reading. When we've hit road bumps in the past it hasn't seemed so dire...

Part Three That is a very, very good point. Thank you. This is really my first time being in an established relationship while dating new people. I think it caused me to kind of cut slack in areas that I shouldn't. Luke and Jose may be emotionally unavailable because they're mono and I'm poly...

Part Two Gala, another thing you mentioned, and Luna too, is the type of poly George is doing. That may be a compatibility thing as well? Yep, I think that's about the size of it, as they say. Lol. I've thought about the TV show. Let's pretend it was Glee (it wasn't lol) so this doesn't get...

Part One I know exactly how you feel about this. I literally feel the same way. I don't handle being lonely very well, but don't feel lonely when I'm just alone on my own. I actually love being in my own company. I go out alone often. I take myself out on little dates (lol). I love planning...

Thanks everyone for the responses and advice. Kevin, I agree that I'm reevaluating polyamory at the moment. I don't think I'm evaluating so much whether to be poly? Maybe? I feel like I am poly. Like it's just my orientation, and I don't think I'd manage in a closed, mono relationship. I don't...

I've been feeling this way for a couple of weeks now, and then today I had a thought for the first time that made me sad. That my relationship with George isn't real, or not as real as it could be, or would be, if we weren't poly. It started with Luke. When we first met and started dating...

I think that expressing concern is more than fair, and yes, I think it's fair to ask for an additional level of scrutiny in a kink related or D/s relationship. The assymetrical power dynamic makes it too easy for manipulation to occur without the person realizing (at least for a while)...

I'll keep this brief. I'm noticing that I struggle a lot with jealousy and general insecurity with my relationships with mono people. I assume this is because, with poly people, I know that other partners won't necessarily replace me. But with mono people, because choosing is sort of built into...

I think this is all very fair. ::deep sigh:: I've always known - due to my delightful upbringing - that I struggle with people pleasing and setting/maintaining boundaries. That is what makes something like this so difficult for me. Even when I'm uncomfortable, even when I'm RIGHT to be, it's...