Recent content by bibic93

Thanks for sharing your example, Magdlyn! Very clear and helpful! Then definitely my approach would be setting boundaries instead of vetoes. Also because that's exactly what happened in the past with my partner and what I usually do with friends or family. I was talking about vetoes because I...

Thanks, Evie! I wouldn't say it's "a lot" because there was a first relationship (the toxic one) that lasted a year and now there has been another one that lasted, I think, a couple of months. However, my partner does have a tendency to fall in love often and wants to engage in secondary...

Preface: when they told me that, I was ill, had just gotten my period, was going through some emotional issues on my side unrelated to our relationship, and I was alone in another state for work, in the middle of a 10-day trip in 3 different countries. So, in this specific case, my brain surely...

OMG, thanks everybody! I feel really seen and all your replies are super interesting! Let me start with this, because I think I misused some words here. (Sorry, despite reading as much as I can, I'm still a newbie, especially because I have nobody who can correct me in my group of friends...

Thanks everybody for the replies ❤️ Yes, definitely. I am totally aware of this, and actually have improved a lot compared to the past, especially on things outside poly problems. I struggle a lot with my inability to be helpful in those situations, because I would love to be able to handle...

Hi Evie, Thanks very much for the reply! Yes, I have psychological support on my side since 2020 already, and that helps a lot "unpacking" the "panic" that sometimes creates in my head. And it allowed me to manage the first traumatic poly relationship my partner had. I know where it comes from...

Preface: I will write this post in a gender-neutral way but you can use any pronoun when referring to me and/or my partner. The short answer is "Of course, you can set whatever limit you want, as long as you discuss it with them," but I am not satisfied with this, because I want to have a more...