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@GalaGirl Thanks for the links. Added them to my reading material.

She reads and talks to members of a poly FB group she found. She participated in a Zoom meeting and asked questions. I'm exploring this interesting forum. We share our findings, thoughts and insights. Hopefully we can cover more ground like this.

No, of course not. There will always be imbalances and counting notches is not something I would like to do. The point is a poly-poly relationship has more symmetry than a mono-poly relationship. Sure a mono-poly relationship can thrive. I'm trying to learn how make it thrive and I'm reading...

@GalaGirl Thanks for your thoughts. Yes, we both have the freedom. But when only one side is exercising this freedom you get asymmetry (or whatever is the right term). I'm reassuring her all the time. We had a wonderful conversation today and I pointed out again that she shouldn't hold herself...

@Magdlyn Thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. Yes, That is very concerning. But this is a result of my character. I'm not social. I find it hard to interact with people and even harder to keep friendships and maintain them. All my interactions with other people are based on family...

@icesong Thank you for your time to spent answering me. Very appreciated. Actually, I had now a wonderful discussion with my wife about the things I wrote here and the answers I got from you and from others. I shared my concerns and she was very attentive. We both have some action items before...

@HaloOnFire @Darqon @kdt26417 Thank you for the warm welcome and for answering so rapidly (considering the time-zone differences we probably have). I thank you for letting me to freely open my heart and mind. I need to vent a lot, sorry if it's too much. Thanks a lot for this. Yes. we are...

Hi all, I'm BigR. I'm new here. just signed up. Before I start introducing myself let me start with an apology. Actually three apologies. First, English is not my native language, so please excuse any spelling or grammar mistakes I probably have. It is not intentional. Second, I may be out of...