Recent content by BirdsNest

Pretty sure dating apps are designed to be addictive.

As the OP I feel pretty attacked by some of the comments on this thread at time when I'm in distress. It hardly speaks of compassion on the part of the commentators. I'm aware there is more than one way to do things and I'm not at all new to poly either.

I'm going to do what I think is best instead of prescribing to a predefined deadline. To be honest I'm keen to focus on my career for a bit. Working multiple jobs and trying to get recognised as an artist. That 'baby' has been in gestation for too long, I've exhibited, ran workshops, sold my...

Yeah I think he's just reeling from the ending of a serious relationship and needs time to process that. From other things he said, and his general demeanour, I don't think he will be a 'solo poly' kind of guy. I had previously suggested we break up, and that maybe he needed to be single for a...

Wow SEASONEDPoly - just wow. Your response to this thread comes off as paranoid. I mean - if one wants a little bit of hierarchical poly, a little bit of 'mononormativity' to keep us feeling comfortable? That is ok too. A recognition omitted from your entire dialogue, in your haste to...

Another thing I want to add here is this: I made a point of talking to my ex about the people I fancied, the people I was talking to and kept him informed of what was going on with these people. I even introduced him to my close friend whom I've been in love with...basically since I met them...

Sounds like a good step on the path to recovery from the eating disorders. My parents treated me badly too, when I get upset I find eating very difficult. xx

In my opinion we should ignore SEASONEDPoly, who is essentially a troll. I've read their other posts and they seem to frequently antagonise other members on here. Like many others I came here for understanding, support and a way to navigate through choppy waters. SEASONEDPoly is a distraction.

Yes well we had discussed breaking up- but the day before he told me he wanted to be with me and wanted to make it work, told me how he put a stop on a developing relationship that stressed me out. He only met her once and said his relationship with me was far more important. And it seems that...

Well, here is what happened: Called him yesterday to talk about this, specifically regarding the issue with the latest woman on the scene. He told me that he'd actually agreed to be only friendly with her, that he wanted to be with me and I was his priority. He didn't tell me this a few days...

....So we've talked and I think I have been heard out a LITTLE here but something is still really bugging me. I left him a letter and we didn't speak for a week. The letter roughly said- “This pace is too much for me, I know I need to deal with my shit but I need a partner who can support me...

Heya, How am I coping with the 'shit in my head'? I have a therapist, a good network of supportive friends, I just left a very toxic housing situation, living someplace temporary while looking for something longer term. (It will be lonely there....) Trying hard with my career - having to push...

Thanks for the kind words and compassion! Yes it is rough, really rough!! I've spent years dating people who didn't treat me very well and years feeling left out and alone as friends find partners and start to settle - moving in together, taking holidays together. I stopped getting invited out...

I'm his only partner. My opinion is that those who are willing to seek new relationships regardless of where other relationships are at, are not really considering the feelings of their present partner. If you're willing to introduce further instability/disruption into something unstable, to me...

If non-monogamy is a journey and one needs a partner to go on that journey with... I feel like he is ploughing ahead, with intensity, and without me. He isn't inconsiderate overall, he's actually really kind, supportive while I've been through some rubbish recently. I just think he's got his...