Recent content by blueberrypuff

Thank you @Bobbi that seems to be very helpful advice. I will try processing my feelings this way. I've done EMDR therapy and it has worked very well for me, but I don't quite understand how EMDR ties into it here. Do you mean the left/right of walking? I've only done eye-movement and tapping in...

Those look like good ideas, and I will definitely give them a try. Thank you! Going out into nature, exercise and a creative outlet are aspects that I have been neglecting and I can see that they would help me work through my feelings on my own better. I think scheduling a talk might work with...

Thank you! That was very reassuring and it did go well at first, but last night Tom and I had an argument again and he told me that I have to learn to time it better when I come to him to voice my frustration about the new situation. I have also had this come up with Aden, when I wrote them a...

Thank you for your replies, they were really helpful! The list of resources looks great, I will definitely check some of it out. I have read Opening Up, Polysecure, The Ethical Slut and am currently reading The Polyamory Paradox. Also Nonviolent Communication to improve my communication with...

That's a good suggestion, thank you, I can imagine that it was confusing to read. I will just use the ones you used then. It has been four months now. Tom and I read a couple of books and talked a lot to Charlie, who has been poly for some years, before starting to date. We've been talking...

Hi everyone, I'm 32 and from Germany, new to polyamory and struggling a bit at the moment with all the changes in my relationships that have been going on over the past few months. I've been in a relationship with the same partner for almost 10 years now. We've been living together for 9 of...