Recent content by Bobbi

This is messy on an epic scale. I'm sorry you are going through this. It's a bit of a difficult read with initials. If you feel inclined to edit to make fake names, that would be easier. Apple, Evergreen, Hibiscus are options. I don't envy your position, but if it were me I'd see 2 options. 1...

I put in a UK post code then the Kindle version disappears and only paperback is available

.... I guess for kindle I just need to change my address in Amazon to a UK address for that purchase then change it back...I guess I can Google a McDonalds or something? 😂😂😂

I guess it's not available in the US. Even though it's free it wouldn't let me purchase because my location is outside of the UK

Yeah, that's the amount of time he can dedicate. It was bad hinging on his part telling you "they" had decided. This means he doesn't decide what he does with his time in relationships. If you do see him every 2 weeks, and over the next year it does grow, she will be "helping" him make...

You did nothing wrong. There are as many reasons for ending a relationship as there are people. Maybe his wife shut it down, maybe he had to suddenly care for a sick parent, maybe he has undisclosed mental illness, maybe he lied to you about being poly and he's just a cheater, maybe he and his...

I would go slow and see if things change over time. My life partner, for the first year we were together, did not want to meet my other partners. He felt much discomfort thinking about it. One day we had to go by my place and he met my nesting partner. Afterwards, he looked at me and said "I...

I wouldn't consider that poly-fidelity. It's more like an agreement to be saturated at two each. That's their agreement. They didn't tell you that you couldn't see others, right? If they told you that you couldn't see others, or if you all agreed together that there would be no outside dating...

We know that there's always two sides to a story and how a shared experience can be completely different for each person involved. We are also limited to the communication style of the poster and text writing without tone of voice, budy language, etc. We do the best we can. I know that I can...

But HE wasn't WILLING to make it work. You had nothing left to give and instead of accepting that, he demanded more. You were incompatible and it couldn't be worked out. You made the right decision. Even when it hurts, it's still right.

This I can give my $.02 on. Let them have their stuff and don't get involved. Don't let either of them rope you in. That's the hard part. They may come to you for support, as loved ones do. You can hug them, tell them it will be okay, but don't get in the weeds of their perspectives (stories)...

I would just like to clarify what you are trying to say. Terms can be tricky. Monogamy means one. You are not practicing monogamy. You are practicing "closed polyamory" otherwise known as poly-fidelity. That is where the polycule (your triad) doesn't date anyone else and is closed, just as...

Keep in mind that polyamory isn't (just) about being comfortable dating, fucking and loving others, it's about being comfortable with your partners dating, fucking and loving others. Poly needs to go both ways. If wife can date, then so can you. Yes, you can choose not to and change your mind...

Doing anything while in the midst of NRE is a big mistake, no matter what kind of relationship structure you follow. People get swept up in it, are convinced that it's their soul mate, this STRANGER, that they are meant to be. They lose their minds until they see the truth, are hurt beyond...

That just takes time and experience. It's still part of monogamous programming. You have talked about it and given the green light for PDA, so it's not about respecting your feelings. It's about moving through some ingrained monogamous programming on her part. She will just have to do it to get...