Recent content by bobs

Ha! Even though he won't give me PIV penetrative sex, the sex is actually up there with the best I've had. He's very attentive, and we can easily spend 3 or 4 hours in the bedroom. It's one of the reasons I'm reluctant to give him up! I totally agree that at his age he's not going to change. I...

We've fallen out today, not directly about the stuff I've posted on here - about feeling like he treats me disrespectfully sometimes. He pissed me off yesterday - messaged me to say he was heading home and did I want to chat for a bit, and then messaged an hour later to say a friend was calling...

Thanks for your response Magdlyn I do believe that his childhood/background very much feeds into how he is, and I do try to take it into consideration (and did when I was considering the things GG raised). The PIV thing is definitely linked to his paranoia around unwanted pregnancy - but I’m...

Is he a love-bombing narc too? I don’t think so, not from my experience of love-bombing. He’s not overly giving of his time. Not to say that I don’t get some of his time, but he’s not constantly messaging and showering me in compliments. And he’s not the type to pay for everything. We’ve always...

I should also have said in response to Bobbi: He’s not looking for the one! I’m in my 50s and he’s in his 60s and just retired. He’s never married, never had children, has always thrown himself into his career instead, as his parents’ marriage put him off married life. But he’s always had a...

Thanks for your response, Bobbi! I’ve just said in my response to Galagirl, that everything he’s ever disclosed to me about the other metas, I feel has been to try to ensure that I don’t feel “less than” them in terms of value and importance. As it always comes with a sort of “I only see her...

Thank you so much for writing such an in-depth reply to me. It’s much appreciated! I agree it was a fast move from the mono ex to the poly guy. It was very out of character for me. I tend to spend quite a while on my own between relationships, years sometimes, as I don’t really mind being on my...

This might be a bit long, just to give a bit of background and context. About 10-12 years ago, after my marriage ended, I knew I had some submissive tendencies. I found a guy on a dating site who I used to chat to. We eventually agreed to meet, but I chickened out. (Talking BDSM in chat and...