Recent content by booklady78

I've also had some big losses and all I can suggest is to be as honest as you can be about where you're at and what you need. It's ok if anyone in your life can't fulfill a need. It doesn't have to mean the end of anything. I've found that I'm very conscientious lately about where my energy...

I'm so sorry redpepper, sending lots of positive, healing thoughts your way.

Hello All! I'm just re-connecting with this site and wanted to post some of the media our group has received. The Polyamory Edmonton Association gained some national attention last fall (Sept 2014). There are 2 radio interviews I can post as well. Here is the paper interview...

Things have been coasting along lately, not really any momentum gained. My bf had the opportunity to seek out a referral for therapy at his regular 'dosage' check in, but declined to ask for help. He's taken to offering flimsy excuses as to why he doesn't want any therapy at the moment so I've...

I find the local kink communities are pretty poly friendly. There is an Edmonton group that aims for monthly get togethers, they post on Facebook fairly regularly. I don't feel a strong need to attend many gatherings, I have a strong connection with my friends so I don't feel the need to...

My own 'coming out' with family & friends was mixed, friends being wonderful, family being a big mess. In hindsight, I really don't regret telling the family that now disapproves. I only wish I had better prepared myself for the backlash. As for advice, here's my two cents. If you have...

This was a pretty emotionally draining week, but I got through it with support from my husband and friends (and of course lovely things from the folks on here!). Giving my bf space was incredibly hard, knowing he was just downstairs and I couldn't see him. He truly didn't know how difficult it...

I'm still in a bit of shock, our talk didn't really accomplish anything but alot of tears. I'm not able to search for less blunt wording, but basically he is pretty messed up at the moment. I severely underestimated his ability to deal with his emotions and communicate, or even understand what...

Thank you so much for your responses, they really have given me a lot to think about. I really hesitated to use the term "secondary" as I dislike the label, I was struggling to find more appropriate words. I do agree that I need to approach a conversation with him in terms of what support he...

As is often the case, I want to bounce an idea on the forums before broaching it in person. I have a husband and a boyfriend. I understand why having other partners works for my husband and I. Our bond remains strong and hasn't been diminished, in fact in a lot of ways it's stronger. I love...

I'm not sure I agree that most poly folk would feel that the term is eroded or degraded by including other forms of responsible non-monogamy. I find it really very sad that anyone would feel their community is at all degraded by including people with differences into it.

To clarify, I believe the term "poly" is not unlike "non-monogamy". Polyamory is typically viewed as the "multiple committed, loving relationships" while just "poly" in itself can include different relationship types. It is my own personal belief that poly is responsible non-monogamy, which...

I'm quite enjoying this thread, very interesting stuff! I think "poly" is a convenient term as it's the word many of us put out there, specifically "polyamory". In truth, I think a more simplified definition is "non-monogamy". Perhaps we are reluctant to use this definition as it can be...

Love Gibran quote, one of my favourites! :) I also dig the term "plork"! :D

Very pleased to see this post is generating some very thoughtful responses and sharing of experiences. I thought I might update my own original post as it was quite some time ago and change is inevitable. My husband and I, as well as his girlfriend, are openly poly and becoming quite active in...