Recent content by burnay76

I personally feel like I've found someone I should have known years ago! I'll struggle through just about anything at this point. I do feel guilty at times when I'm the cause of conflict.... Crazy example.... We prearranged a date to the Hollywood bowl on Friday and got a day use hotel near LA...

Looking for people's take on a situation: I'm seeing a woman for 4 months now. She is married with 4 children. Her husband also dates and is seeing 1 maybe 2 others. Now, her and I are peas in a pod. quickly developing as much of a best friendship as becoming great lovers. Before meeting me...

I could swing the duplex idea but not with an ocean view (I guess that's something she might have to give up). If we part, and maintain only a coparenting connection, I do want to create enough distance that it would not scare off a mono partner. I am not averse to conscious monogamy if the...

Awesome. I like the feedback on not thinking too concretely where things will end up. Disentanglement is going to be a bear. She has been a stay at home mom, no income, for 5 years. I have managed everything. She is a brilliant scientist in her own right and can easily support herself - just...

Stay married for a while as I disentangle slowly, yeah. Teach her more self sufficiency during that. I have a vested interest in her doing well and being happy - we will be raising kids together for at least the next 14 years. Practice poly? Maybe if the right opportunity comes along. I'm...

I appreciate the feedback, even the stuff I don't want to hear. I broached this with her and it's a bit messy. Yes, she found her asexual identification shortly after I suggested poly. She quickly realized the only thing she has less interest in than sex and romance with me is sex and romance...

I think I may have misspoke. I'm not saying I want to sleep by the same person 365 days a year. However, if I am in that dynamic I need that person to be all those things. My ideal dynamic is triad or quad. I abandoned that for many reasons though. It worked for me briefly (before meeting my...

I though long and hard about the band aid thing before I brought up poly. It was my idea. I always identified as poly at some level since college 25 years ago but left that to ride the relationship escalator. It did well for me. I've built a successful medical practice with her help. Juggling...

Looking for insight on a complex issue - maybe someone has come up against something like this. I am married 11 years, together 18, with my wife. We have had an open relationship in the form of me having a "hall pass" for most of that time. My wife identifies as Asexual and felt it only right...