Recent content by CattivaGattina

This is now a little less than accurate (as I've learned more about myself). AFAB femme demi-girl (uses she/her pronouns but perfers fae or nym pronouns), pan-romantic, grey-a with fluctuation between sex-neutral and sex-adverse. Both partners are male, when I feel comfortable with dating again...

I'm like this. It's only Tighearn's schedule that prevents an equal split (he works both weekends and most nights right now). But once that changes (he wants it to) then my time will probably be nearly 50/50 between my home with Woodsmith and where Tighearn lives with Merry and N8. We wouldn't...

Check out the Novices and Newbies group. A lot of the greeters/caretakers (and others who just have a lot of know-how) participate frequently to help people find what you are looking for. That group may be able to direct you to more research type groups.

I don't think I need the couples/family part because both Woodsmith and Tighearn are able to deal with this better than I am.

Bringing the topic back around to something at least more inline with asexuality. I've always been grey-A (being demi-sexual). A few months ago (I don't remember how many), I talked about how a medication had taken that grey-A and kicked it into a high gear of complete loss of libido. Ended up...

I'd tell my family once we get a place (the money for a down payment is under mine and my dad's name so I want to make sure the house is bought before he could say no to that). Tighearn and Woodsmith are less sure when they would because both of them have very religious families. My thing is my...

As someone who even after medication changes still has no libido (so I've either become asexual due to medicine, hormones, or just a change to myself) I disagree with you. Polyamory deals with love. Yes, sex may be a part but it's not a requirement. I've had some meltdowns myself due to...

Yes, the plan is for us to all live together. And we would think of each other at immediate family (cause logistically we would view it that three of the members of my family are married to two different people). As of now there are no children but the ultimate plan is a co-parenting type set...

I've done long distance (as a mono) before. I can't do it. I live with my husband and Sir is only a 30 min drive from where I live (will be closer one he, his wife, and her fiancee move into the house they bought). Our long term goal is for all five of us to live together (and for Sir and I to...

Honestly this squirks me out the most of things on this thread. You have to ask permission to be out of his possession? For me, that would be a crazy red flag (YMMV). I'm married but neither my husband nor I ask permission for things (hell even getting in other relationships). We just let each...

Because the beuarcarcy considered a civil union more of a commitment thing. It didn't come with the federal benefits (or the ability for it to be recognized state to state). Basically because governments weren't considering civil unions as good as a marriage.

Or, if other things prevent him from turning his phone off, putting it on silent and checking it when there's down time (either in the bathroom, if you guys go out somewhere and one goes to get the car and the other waits, etc.). That'll give him chance to reply and keep the bzzzz bzzzz down.

I would say that poly has a neutral to slight positive effect on my marriage. My relationships are separate (as in neither partner are involved with each other) but we do have a family style poly so there is both one on one time and family times (and one on one time with metamours as well). But...

I'm on the opposite side of things. I'm demisexual (only sexually attracted with people I have an emotional connection to) but even with that I'm grey-A. Even before the medication that killed my libido (and since getting my libido back) I honestly would be fine only having sex with each of my...

I've had three distinct metamour differences. 1) Girl and I were (and still are) really good friends. Both of us though thought the other was getting more time with shared partner (he wasn't a very effective hinge). Things got better when we weren't metamours anymore. 2) Girl and I had been...