Recent content by clalb

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    Don't know whats right, don't know what to feel.

    I´m sorry you´re going through this. I went through something very similar lately and I really feel you. Your partner´s reactions, acting as she wants (no matter how you feel about it), breaking your golden rules and also telling you to be cool - my ex partner did it all. I also reacted as you...
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    thoughts and mixed feelings

    Thank you all for your kind words. It´s a long way, I know... @opalescent, if you happen to find that text, I would love to read it.
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    thoughts and mixed feelings

    Hey you all. This is going to be long. It´s been a while. It has taken me some strenght and courage to come back to this post to update you all. I wanted to do it for all the help and time you gave me through this and also because I read some posts of people going through similar things with...
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    First big fight with metamor.

    I´m sorry to hear that. Sometimes venting out helps (me) a lot. Sending you hugs, if you need them.
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    thoughts and mixed feelings

    I´ve been doing yoga every day (I started in the summer occasionaly and have been taking it more seriously since December and even more since during that vacation) and this has been helping me a lot. The breathing exercises help me calm down and also get my head clear. I´m seeing a counselor...
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    thoughts and mixed feelings

    Thanks for your words. I think you´re right about him being insecure about his deep emotions - he never wants to go there. It´s probably also one of the reasons I sticked aroud. I thought he could deal with it, at some point, or I could help him go there and deal with it. And you´re right...
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    thoughts and mixed feelings

    Mags, thanks for the link. I could see a lot of traits he has, too. :( I´m pretty sure Menace is a Narcissist. He even said that one time... He is definitely self centered and only pleases me (or anyone else) if it pleases him as well...
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    thoughts and mixed feelings

    Yeah, that´s it. It´s ended in all but name. We haven´t been chating at all since almost 3 days - and we usually chat everyday. The only time it happened was when I asked that we do not while I was on vacation with my daughter after all the drama with V. and then when we took a break. This time...
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    thoughts and mixed feelings

    I made a list of things I want in a relationship (I will still let the list in the end), but all I think it would take to safe the relationship is, first, from my side, that I work through my insecurities/anxiety issues. Second, that he becomes more open to respecting my feelings, my need to...
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    thoughts and mixed feelings

    GalaGirl, thanks again for all the input. Reading about emotional abuse now, I got a bit confused. I could identify 14 items out of the 30 from that link, but I´m not sure this is really happening. It could be a denial, but also it could only be that he can´t give me what I want. I mean, he...
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    thoughts and mixed feelings

    This is going to be long... Thank you all for your replies. It means a lot. I´m working to cut the ties off, to feel confident about this decision. Lizzie, your metaphor made sense to me. A lot. Also, what you and nycindie said about my daughter…this really got me. I never saw this as...
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    new poly relationship

    Being in a difficult relationship for over two years now and trying to cut the ties, I totally agree with with Cindie.
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    thoughts and mixed feelings

    Hey, so, things have been rough again for a while now. I got to a point where the pain has been very strong and Icame back here to read his thread, to read what you guys wrote me back then - I already knew, even before reading, many things didn´t change. After reading it, it´s horrifying how...
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    Scheduling visits

    I don´t think the other person HAS to cancel. It´s still their decision - a permission was not asked, only "are you okay with that". As KC43 stated, and I agree, eventhough I hope we can work on someway of helping the person having issues (in my relationship, that´s me) feel okay with that...
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    Scheduling visits

    It seems to be an inside joke, but I would like to know what Kevin´s position was before. :)
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