Recent content by cr89

Yea hopefully! I'm not really looking right now though, this one just kind of happened. Now I'm just dealing with A's possible interest in men... But that's a whole other thread.

Thanks, I agree. Luckily this hasn't had a negative impact on my marriage with A, that was actually my biggest concern when we started this. Kind of caught me off guard. But live and learn right?

I should clarify that the girl he is with now is very sweet and her and I have actually become friends (we met through my husband before they even started talking again). They both came over one time to hang out and we had a great time. So I don't think it's because of her.

A quick update in case any of you were actually following this. At this point, today actually, I have cut him off as a friend. Or at least as someone who I feel very close to. It failed miserably with B's baby mama, she actually wound up leaving the state while he was on a 10 day mission which...

My husband (who I have referred to as A) has run into this issue in our fairly small town. We are not open about being non-monogamous. It may cause problems at work, B (my sometimes-other-boyfriend/lover...) and A both work in the same squadron in the navy. We are also not ready to open up to...

Yes that's entirely possible, he does after all have a lot going on with his baby etc and work. He's flying right now (Navy) so I'm just going to leave it until I see him again in a week or two. After giving it a lot of thought the past few days, I'm open to trying a more casual approach with...

It was about two months there, when we were going to just be friends. Maybe it wasn't long enough, but like I've said A and B are best friends, I can't expect him to never come over. Maybe I should've left the house? I don't know. Maybe I'm bargaining? I prefer to think I'm weighing my options...

Yea trouble is, we've tried friends WITHOUT benefits. It just doesn't work, we are drawn to each other. It happens over and over. I really think it's going to boil down to either friends with benefits, or not really speaking. The latter would be difficult to say the least, A and B are best...

I think you hit the nail, messy is just about the most appropriate term for him. After all this reflection and conversation with A (B's closest friend), I think B and I have two very different ideas about what this is. He just wants to have fun, in and out of the bedroom. I thought it was more...

Yea same guy. Let's see, that was end of March/beg of April. That plan with baby mama only lasted a couple of weeks, like I said in that post she is very manipulative. She only kept him around for his money, he finally seemed to see what was going on and cut her off completely, thereby limiting...

I appreciate your input! Yes this is very likely. He seems to be very "there" in person, but then very distant via text which is the only other way we really communicate. It makes me wonder though what was going on in the beginning when we would have long conversations virtually every evening...

Thank you for the reading recommendation, I will definitely look into it. A and I talk about it a lot and we vary between believing B is just too stressed right now and "checking out" as you say, or that he is just a very solitary person who doesn't communicate like we do. I will definitely read...

Basic background: I'm married with two children by my husband (A). We recently opened our marriage and I have a boyfriend (B). It's been a little rocky lately because B has a baby with another woman who is very manipulative, he's been at odds with her for some time over custody etc. Anyway, so...

Thank you for your kind words. Yes he is pretty traditional and feels he needs to make every effort to "do the right thing". It's hard to watch. He attempted something similar and was burned within days, I fear it won't be long before we are comforting him again for the same issue, not that...

PP nailed it, he just plain doesn't communicate. It's been a lot longer than a couple weeks, that's just how long it went well for. We began all of this around Valentine's day. Anyway, finally pried a response out of him. Apparently he's going to try to make a life with baby mama. Even though...