Recent content by dierdre080

The thing about polyamory is that all partners should be concerned with the needs of all partners. You are spending so much time and emotional energy on obsessing about your husband's needs and wants. Who is doing the same for you? Look- I am not saying that this life is FOR YOU- it is not...

Welcome! I have also struggled with worrying about what people will think, but in the end, either being yourself or hiding who you are can lead to exile, but at least one of them is honest. <3 I have been surprised by the range of reactions I have gotten from people I have opened up to...

Galagirl, Thank you for taking the time to write such a thoughtful response. It brought me to tears a few times- and not in a tragic way. I don't think you were at all mean. You were pointing out some flaws in my logic. I am so prone to self-hatred and/or comparison that I let that spiral...

In my polycule, I am the one with a: the most partners & b: the most time constraints. I can tell you that it has been extremely important to define and respect everyone's time- and I think that is where you need to start with your boyfriend. We made a group calendar, and put my dates with...

I asked him. I have already known that he finds her to be very attractive because we have known each other for years, and I was a close friend when they dated before. So then I said- "are you still going to love me the same if you are dating someone you find so attractive? " As for you second...

These are great questions! I have indeed been seeing a therapist, and we are working on my issues of self-worth. I have told Q about my issues, and he does know that I need extra reassurance of why he is attracted to me- and is pretty good at providing that. It is such a ridiculous thought...

I liked the point that someone made that the living together piece is the problematic piece. Is there a possibility of your NP sharing his time between your residence and hers? Would you be open to that? Then they get to have the "living together" feeling, and you don't have to give it up...

I have a situation where what you are seeking is totally achievable and all parties would want that while also being poly- but here is the rub of it: I have one partner who wants to build a life with me; and one who wants to be nomadic and do his own thing, and come visit, or meet me in other...

Hi! A little background- I currently have 3 partners: my husband, my boyfriend, and my girlfriend. My boyfriend, lets call him Q, recently reconnected with a woman from his past that he was still really hung up on- lets call her B. There is a lot of complicated issues to sort through for them...