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In Wisconsin bigamy is only if you legally marry two people in the eyes of the law. However polygamy where one is not a legal ceremony is still illegal. It is under the same code as adultery and cohabitation. They are class 1 felonies. I know the law. It's never prosecuted in Wisconsin. I'm more...

I am interested in the input of others on polyamory becoming polygamy. While I as a general rule could care less what anyone thinks about my partners and I being polyamorous, I hesitate at plural marriage. A portion of this is probably from the social stigma still ingrained in my brain from...

I guess for short term advice and what I've always done with coming out as poly is to play it by ear and judge the person's reactions. If it seems like you have a lot in common with the person and their is some interest in moving forward then bridge the subject. I wouldn't just announce it to...

Okay I see what you are saying now. I would be upset to in your position. I have had a couple of those issues with sweetheart and at firsti held them in. As a secondary partner I didn't feel like I had a right to say anything. But that got really old really fast for me. He would just cancel...

Love bunny I think you said it perfectly. While I don't condemn everyone for cheating in a monogamous relationship because I honestly believe that societal briefs about polygamy force us into monogamous relationships when some of us were never meant to be monogamous. That being said what the op...

Perhaps he truly is concerned about her jealousy? Especially if it is a newer relationship. Jealousy is a part of poly whether we like it or not and you need to be aware of partners potential triggers so that they can be openly discussed. For example, me and kitty had to discuss the potential of...

Being poly is not an excuse to cheat. He is not poly. He wants his cake and eat it to.

I'd be interested to know how other people handle this. I was pretty straightforward from the start with my partners. I know Lovey had a hard time and tried doing it both ways. If he told women he was poly in advance they ran away fast. Some women considered it when he told them after a...

I posted similar problems earlier this year. I met Sweetheart and fell in love. Lovey and I discussed Poly and really felt it was right for us. However, the longer we went where I was seeing Sweetheart and Lovey couldn't find a partner, the stronger his jealousy became. Not going to lie, we...

I also found poly by starting out as swingers and I couldn't be happier. What specifically are you looking for advice on?

You are right that knowing I feel guilty makes him feel worse. It makes him feel like he needs to try even harder to just get over it instead of just processing through it. I guess I need some work too... Thanks for the perspective.

I agree. He is allowed to be bummed. I think I just want so much for him to experience what I experience that I feel guilty for having something he doesnt? Does that make sense?

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In my opinion, you are doing exactly as you should be. You are exploring your relationship with him while ensuring you are respecting their primary relationship. I think your feelings are based on insecurity. Jealousy can develop from insecurity so be careful. I've definitely been there...

I have to disagree with this statement. I think it goes badly when two people have different ideas of where the secondary fits into the picture. I am a secondary to my secondary. We know exactly where we stand with each other. While we always put our primary's first, we in no way neglect...