Recent content by dunkdonutprincess

How exactly do you not think, "Hey, our partner went to bed upset about not feeling desired, and we also just talked about her feeling like we're always just waiting for her to leave. Maybe when she goes to get coffee, we can manage to keep our hands out of each other's pants and answer her...

Ok, sorry I overreacted. It just reminded me of another sting I got in Bob's and my fight that my heart isn't as big as his and I need to work on "sharing more love" basically. I felt pretty ready to share love with him and Cee. It also just happened that immediately they kept overstepping my...

In the prior vee/triad/vee, I was dating Bob, who was engaged. They had had several partners in the past, either as a triad or a vee. They'd been together for over 10 years when I started seeing Bob. It morphed into a triad pretty naturally, but then his wife and I grew apart and decided...

When did I ever say I blew up at anyone? When I expressed how I was feeling, I talked to both of them, calmly, we all apologized and then we all went and had breakfast. If they're hiding what they're doing because they're afraid it would make me upset, for a good partner isn't that a cue to...

We were both friends with Cee for years. I liked them as more than a friend for a while, but since we hadn't discussed seeking out other partners again after our last poly relationship ended, I didn't bring it up. I can control crushes and romantic feelings if I think it will upset my partner, a...

Ok wow, well there I have it I guess. I'm not cut out for poly. I guess I just needed to get things out in the open to figure that out for myself. I'm a little confused, were they being dishonest and not communicating or am I just jealous of the sex and bad at boundaries? I maybe wasn't...

We have been together for 12 years, half of that in a vee with his now ex-wife. We had a big fight the other night about all this and he accused me of trying to sabotage things between him and Cee because I said I was thinking about taking a step back, even though that would be difficult for...

Update for anyone who gave me advice; I'm ending things with Cee and possibly also Bob. Found out recently that the morning after Cee and I snuggled and they fell asleep, when I went to go get coffee for the three of us, Cee and Bob fooled around again. This was after the conversation where...

Thank you so much for all your insight. I will keep reading, there are so many good resources here; I just find talking things out to help me process more. Sometimes just reading things can further my spiral instead of breaking me out of it. I was in a vee before, that turned into a triad, the...

Thank you for the resources, I did have a look around but still felt a bit lost. This isn't my first triad, but the last one ended quite badly after my relationship with the third fizzled. So that just adds to my anxiety here, I'm just not a desirable partner/good at poly or something. I was...

Sorry about that, fixed now hopefully.

That's what's really bothering me, I guess. Not feeling chosen or important to two people who are having a great time with NRE, when supposedly I'm to be included in that NRE. Feeling like I'm in the way of Cee's alone time with Bob but Cee also doesn't seem to care to pursue alone time with me...

I think that's what this all boils down to, a fear of being replaced, on two fronts. They seem fully caught up in NRE with each other while I'm caught in unrequited love with Cee. Complicating it is the fact that I'd been crushing on Cee for a long time and they instead chose Bob with...

Always good advice, I am trying to be reasonable but not ignore how I'm feeling. Thanks. :)

You really zeroed in on the idea that they are the real couple and I'm just complicating things by being present, getting in the way of their relationship and having expectations for my relationship with Cee that they're not prepared or willing to meet. Harsh, but maybe what I needed. I guess...