Recent content by Emmy37

This thread is months old. Give it up already and move on. Has this forum not figured out by now that there won't be any updates? Go spend your time being less than nice to some other poor sucker who is dumb enough to come here looking for people to talk to. This idiot already learned the hard...

In the past when I worked this schedule I would schedule meetings with clients around events the kids had going on. So even though I might be at work before they went to school I took an hour to go watch them at a school event, or a violin recital or a play then went back to work and made sure I...

Ok here is a step by step breakdown of the current and the new: The current living arrangement for Bud & I is: 3 bedroom townhouse with heat, hot water, trash removal, snow removal included. We've been here 10.5 years. Sweet Lady has the same arrangement. Her place is also a 3 bedroom...

Our turkey is cooking. I love the way my house smells when a turkey is in the oven. My favorite Thanksgiving dish is probably pecan pie. It's so bad for you but so yummy! On a side note there really should be turkey scented candles. They make pumpkin pie, apple pie, vanilla cupcake....why not...

She might, she might not, why don't you ask her? She's had a name on here for a few months. I'll have her come answer for herself.

Thank you to everyone else who has responded. You've given us some helpful information. Bud looked at some household apps last night after Galagirl mentioned them. They look like they could be very helpful for all of us. Sweet Lady and I talked last night about bank accounts, personal money...

Bud spent the first 10 years we were together working while I was the stay at home parent and went to college. Once I was done I promised to give him the same opportunity. He is bombarded with messages from family & society that he's not giving anything by being the stay at home parent...

I don't feel like I'm sacrificing anything, just changing things. Change is scarey for me. I'm a creature of habit. I love my job and my family. Lots of people have both and it works out fine. The people around me who have successfully managed to have both are not in poly relationships so it...

I'm hoping if I give a brief run down of some changes that are possibly in the works you guys can help me pick it apart to tell me what (if anything) I may be missing, need to be aware of or watching for as we go through this transition phase. 1) We're moving into a house where the 2 separate...

The only thing I would suggest is to ask that you not have contact with them but as far as picking them for your partner, you really can't. Neither can his friends.

As her and I were laying in bed last night, just the two of us, she made a comment "Yup he's a real sweetheart." That flipped the switch in my brain that has me feeling bad today because it made me remember that I did indeed tell her that all those months ago. This was after Bud had said some...

If I do nothing then really I'm no better than he is and I'm enabling the bad behavior. I'm letting one person I care about treat another one I care about badly and pretending it's ok. :(

I'm hoping this will make sense. If it doesn't I'm happy to clarify so please ask before making assumptions. There are some things going on within the dynamics of my triad that I'm bothered by but having a hard time figuring out my place in them and whether to react or let it continue to play...

Is there some kind of secret code you have to speak on OKCupid? I've messaged people with normal, every day conversation type of messages that seemed respectful and 9/10 times I get no response at all. :confused:

If you go into the relationship looking for your connection to him to be exactly the same as his connection to her you will spend eternity never feeling satisfied or like the relationship is enough of anything. You are a different person than she is. She has already put in time, sweat, tears...