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Thanks. I think I am just going to let the chips fall where they may on this.

She doesn't. She actually sees her request as unfair. However, I feel like if she's getting a pass (even if only b/c she can't let it go) that i should not be interfering, or setting guilt traps by sharing how I feel beforehand. I think I'm actually close to terms with her going and trusting...

No kids. No plans for kids. My spouse was sick for a good period of time. Recently she has been better. I think when she was down, we both got pretty weak. We lost all our friends, our confidence, etc. I also became resentful while trying to nurse her. I am sure she is missing excitement, and...

Thank you. We definitely have things to resolve. While she did kinda make the decision unilaterally, it was that or sacrifice to make me most comfortable. To her credit, she has taken the time to understand how I feel. She also says is willing to work on us first, and even says that what she is...

Hi. I've been in the same relationship for 9 years. Recently, my spouse told me she wanted both of us to have the freedom to hook up with other people. Well, I really didn't mind the idea of a random hookup, but was bothered by the idea of her being with someone more then once and making plans...

I'd like to thank the writers on this thread. You are all excellent communicators and helped me have open communication where both my wife and I got to express ourselves. Anyway, from my experience, I've realized that it really is important to get your emotions under control and express...

Thank you so much. I think I cleared a hurdle with your help already. I will gladly take your advice. I hope you don't mind if i ask you a question if I need to. Thanks again.

I'm trying to figure that out, or at least figure this out. I shared my worst behavior on purpose, as i wanted honest reactions from people who might know best. I know some of my actions were wrong.

She hasn't kissed him, just almost. Anyway, we talked again last night. She told me that she didn't intend to come off as trying to get my blessing/explain away my feelings. I explained that i would have preferred, after so much prior conversation, if she had said "I'm going to do this and I...

Yes, if she had hooked up with him in day or two prior to our discussion, I think it would have been ok. I brought up eliminating exes and we had already agreed that we would not ask or tell. she then brought up the kid (yes, he is younger) and asked if it would brother me. I said i think...

Thank you, Redpepper. I don't think she cheated. She cheated on her last long-term boyfriend before and went home and told him. She told me she wanted to avoid that situation again, and that was one of the reasons she wanted to open it. I have come pretty close to meaningless hookups before, and...

Hi. Please give me some advice on how to deal with this situation and how avoid trouble moving forward. Thanks. I've been married 6 years. My and I wife recently decided to open our relationship up. I've always kinda thought this was normal, and was actually surprised when she came to me about...