Thank you so much for the warm welcome. I’ve combed through this thread a bit now and it’s just nice to hear the dynamics that work for people regardless if it’s the same as mine. So I appreciate it. I love love and this community is really beautiful.
I think we’re off to a great start as well...
My primary and I saw a couples therapist a few years back after a fairly rough breakup. She was so supportive and gave us a ton of literature to borrow and read and helped us deal with all trust issues that had arisen and actually helped us to be able to open our relationship again in a more...
For sure it’s not a huge deal either way to any of us. (Not like Ann has a strict curfew or time i need to kick her out or anything so it’s a loose rule) I also greatly value some me time and it’s been kinda nice having that time to myself as well. I imagine the not sleeping when we spend the...
Main thing I needed was to hear that we arn’t nuts for trying this and wanted to hopefully find some working quad dynamics that made it feel like it could actually be sustainable which I have found a few other threads on here that confirmed this. Although it does seem far more likely to blow up...
It would definitely not be ideal if either primary relationship ended, but if it was the situation where we just grow apart over time and we had many more good years together I’d consider that a success as well. At this stage it seems way more likely that the primary relationships would hold...
I think one of the reasons is I’m extremely busy and need to get enough sleep to stay on top of my daily farm and business stuff which generally doesn’t happen if Ann spends the night. The other reasoning is I think she doesn’t want to feel completely “replaceable” or be forgotten about while...
There’s more of an FF romance than an MM dynamic. Matt and I hang out one on one a lot going fishing, morel hunting, playing music ect. There’s an emotional connection there and have been some tender/sexual moments with the 4 of us together, but I wouldn’t classify our relationship as very...
Apologies for the lengthy post, but I feel the back story helps to understand our unique situation.
So my fiancée and I have been together 8 years ,roughly the same as the couple were dating (who have been married 5 years) We have very little experience with Poly relationships I’ve had a bit in...