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    Hi from Michigan

    Not to bad, Kat had a night away this week which bought up some negative feelings at the time, loneliness mostly, but a chat and some much needed reassurance and we are all good again. Sorry to be AWOL this week, life kind of took over and as I say I wasn't in a constructive frame of mind
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    Lol I'm not sure I would use me as a role model, Kat's away with her GF for the night tonight so...

    Lol I'm not sure I would use me as a role model, Kat's away with her GF for the night tonight so I'm a bit of a mess.
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    And those sometimes wont go away altogether Aquarius, they just get further apart. It's one of...

    And those sometimes wont go away altogether Aquarius, they just get further apart. It's one of the hardest mentalities to break, I still haven't moved past mono for my part, but I'm not in a rush too so that makes things less complicated. As I see it you and hubby have a strong relationship...
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    My situation, seems a little unique here. My wife (Kat) discovered her bisexuality about 6...

    My situation, seems a little unique here. My wife (Kat) discovered her bisexuality about 6 months ago, we talked, argued, talked some more and she started seeing professional escorts to explore it. Things developed and she found an emotional need as much as physical, cue more talking etc...
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    Hi from Oz

    Welcome Breath, I'm pretty new round here, but am old hands at forums online. Must say I have found nothing, but friendly people here. Your opening post was a great read and having just finished opening up am now getting a copy of the ethical slut. Glad to see you and your wife here.
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    Hi from Michigan

    Good to hear dust, I reached the same point about a month ago so I know what a weight lifted it feels like. The energy that these arrangements, relationships can bring into your marriage are just brilliant. Glad you turned a corner mate, enjoy the wave
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    Hi Aquarius, just saw you on Dust's intro thread. Hope your meeting goes well, you seem to be...

    Hi Aquarius, just saw you on Dust's intro thread. Hope your meeting goes well, you seem to be doing ok and that's giving me strength that I may aswell. Take care and have a good weekend.
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    Hi from Michigan

    Hope your weekend goes well Dust, keep chipping away at those negatives mate. Hi Aquarius, hope you too find some light in the gloom, where in Australia are you? Shows how sheltered my introduction to poly has been, I didn't know there was anyone to talk to here lol. Be well both of you, Dust...
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    Hi from Michigan

    Personally I don't think it would help, I can obviously only speak for me, but I would say its risking transference, just putting your focus on somebody else would certainly stop me from being able to concentrate on myself. As I say that's just me and I suppose everyone has different journeys...
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    Hi from Michigan

    Kdt puts it perfectly, it's a big period of adjustment and takes time to get straight in your own head. Glad to read you had a better day yesterday dust. I have good ones and bad, sometimes I can see this as the exciting journey it is and other days it feels like everything you held dear has...
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    Hello!

    Sorry no, it was just a general question, apologies for the confusion, blame my ineptitude on the New Years hangover lol
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    Hi from Michigan

    The initial shock is always going to take time, take communication and then more time. When Kat talked to me about her wants, needs every negative thought that could go through my head did, every worst case became the most likely. First up I wonder why you think you have outgrown one another...
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    Hello!

    Hi Nycindie, I'm very new to the open relationship scene, I'm just curious as to the permission side of things. It seems to me permission implies ownership, I don't know much, but when Kat (my wife) and I talked about her seeing other people, it wasn't so much I could give permission, or consent...
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    Hi from Michigan

    Welcome Dust from one new member to another. Sounds like we have similar situations, am here if I can help at all mate.
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    Hello!

    Hi Holiday, As the mono half of a combination primary it can be pretty hard to wrap your head round it all to begin with. When my wife first came to me and raised the subject she took a lot of time to explain what she was suggesting, why she was suggesting it and then gave me room to think and...
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