Recent content by Garriguette

"Every single person I saw today was upbeat and loving and completely accepting of me. W00t!" That is great! I'm glad you had a day like that, after how difficult yesterday sounded.

I threw an imaginary handful of confetti into the air when I read this paragraph. Thank you for saying that. Xicot and I had a problem for a while where we were overloading on conversations about things that we found difficult. (SO many variations on, "How do we both meet our needs when they...

Adding to what Gala Girl and reflections have said-- If your experience is like mine, it will be easier not to pile on everything at once when you've established a habit of checking in with each other. (On the occasions we miss a check-in, my urge to solve ALL THE PROBLEMS right now becomes a...

LR, I'm sorry. I know this wasn't what you wanted. Please be good to yourself.

*waves hello* I just noticed that you updated your signature to specify 3.5 children-- congratulations, and I hope all goes well!

I hope that your Thanksgiving is good and restorative. Sending hugs and gentle thoughts with you.

I love that quote, too. I've been thinking recently about being around people who've found what they consider to be the Best Candy Bar Ever (be it an approach to relationships, a religious practice or philosophical stance, a field of study), and want to share it with everyone, forgetting that...

I'm sorry you're hurting, Kevin. I hope that you get some calm and respite from the ick soon. Also, I recognize that hostile internal monologue. Brain weasels are the worst. *adds hugs to the queue*

Dagferi, I'm sorry you're in so much pain. That really sucks. Any chance the doctor has a waiting list for earlier emg appointments? It might be that your schedule is tight enough that taking off on short notice wouldn't work for you, but it sounds as if waiting another month isn't a good...

TurquoiseMouse, I like Gala Girl's suggestion here. I'd like also to recommend that your beloved try thought experiments-- not just thinking, "How would I handle TM trying [new thing X]?," but putting himself in the imagined position of you trying [new thing X] and, as much as possible, feeling...

I hope the surgery and healing goes well and that Chops is feeling right as rain very soon, YAH.

Note the word "implication." People can say without saying. You did say, and I quoted, "Having multiple partners who you don't necessarily have to break up with is far superior to a series of monogamous relationships with unknown expiration dates." Any person is free to exit a relationship at...

Sometimes it's what the soup represents, even more than the soup itself, that really hits the spot. I hope you feel back in soccer-playing form soon!

I think you are assuming that everyone values NRE as much as you do. I do not think that is true. Part of the reason that monogamy works so well *for me* (note, please, that "for me" part) is that I don't enjoy NRE. It is over-stimulating and feels indistinguishable from anxiety. I am relieved...

My favorite is "finance," used in place of fiancé or fiancée. I blame auto-correct.