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That's exactly how I feel. He's been around a month, and my boyfriend is meant to drop having intimacy with me, so that it might push his wife towards not sleeping with that guy, and it being fair across the board for his wife and this guy, and me and my bf not being intimate. But it doesn't...

He said, "Can we talk about 50/50 for me and my gf?" She said in the future that's a possibility she could get on board with. He didn't get to decide about her seeing men. She went behind his back and now doesn't want to stop. And he wants to stop any intimacy on her end, but that might mean no...

I have told my BF I wouldn't go behind his back, or cheat on him, or hurt him in that way. He knows I'd be there for him. But he still loves his wife, even though she went behind his back and lied about wanting men, not women only. I wouldn't ask him to leave anyone for me. I don't know what...

Yes, the 50/50 split will hopefully be a thing further in the future. Yes, there have been fantasies I've shared with my bf. I've had to stop those fantasies, and talking about them, as I know he wants to try hard to win his wife back, who wants to sleep with other men. He has given her some...

Yes, she did go behind his back with changing the agreement to wanting to see men, not just women. He wouldn't have agreed to poly if she had said men. He is trying harder to win her back and and doesn't want her sleeping with the new guy. He won't leave her, as he still loves her. I would...

He didn't want to tell me about things, but when he was upset, I asked him what was going on. I wanted to know stuff. Now he's keeping it to himself more, but it's still hard, as I still know he's upset about stuff. He's not happy and she isn't making him happy. Who knows what the future will...

Thing is she said only one gender for herself and thats how she got him to agree to poly. I do agree the more rules the more deceit and upset.

He didn't she knew he would want it to be fair and said at xmas eventually he would want 50/50 with me with a discussion. And she said ok it wont be something straight away or happening yet that is future. Difference is she already is seeing men behind his back with talks even though he wasn't...

Hearts me( yes but would try later down the line with 50/50 Him( wants one penis poly for wife and have us both and eventually 50/50 time shared, and he has said he wouldn't want poly forever but wife does.. Her (poly not going back to mono again for a very long time. The thing is i would but...

I know he always said he wanted to eventually spend 50/50 with both of us, and be with me and his wife. But now his wife wants to do stuff not in the original agreement. So he has scaled it back with me to be with her to try and sort stuff. But she is happy now with the arrangements. He never...

That's really good advice. Thank you. I feel the NRE is still present. I've been hurt so much in past relationships (mono) that I'm always a bit like this. It is so new to me, the whole sharing thing, jealousy of the person that gets to be with him all the time, and that he loves her. You...

In this situation, she isn't struggling much anymore. She wants to branch off a bit more from him, and he is worried about this. And now he's scaling us back whilst he tries extra hard with his wife. I'm only in one relationship, with him. I don't have a significant other.

Well, no. It was never agreed for the other person to go with the opposite gender, and then it was changed without consent. He didn't want to be present if she went for another relationship.

Yes, that is true. Well, it's not her that's struggling. She wants to stay poly, and he does want to stay with me and be with his wife. But he can't stand her being with other guys, and she isn't willing to change her mind on having relationships with others. No one knows what they are doing, to...

I've actually never heard of NRE. Yes, we both have children and are the same age.