Recent content by hislittlekitten

Thank you for following and giving your best input! I really appreciate it.

We are both realizing this and I'm glad we did! Yes, I'm run down. And he knows now. His communications with me has been almost entirely the best, but his communication with her has not been good. He hasn't been able to tell her what he really wants, and she has interpreted it as *me* forcing...

Just a quick update. The meeting went well. It was more about confirming why things have changed; why the time he and I spend so much time together, for instance. She also wanted clarification about things because to her, she could not pinpoint if their issues were about me or were between the...

Yes I respect her place in his life. I feel like I spend all my time accommodating what she wants: "Is Letty ok with us going to (fill in the blank) tonight?" "Have you figured out what nights you're going to see Letty?" I clean up the house for her arrival. I make plans for the nights they want...

*like* well, I don't really view her as competition. I've made it a long way in that it's pretty easy for me to tell my partner, "go enjoy seeing Letty!" and "I hope Letty is doing well." And I genuinely mean those things. For me, it has not been a competition - and if it was in the beginning...

Thank you, I agree with this. I think I probably took her bait when I did anything other than respond the way I'd intended to and waited for a response. Absolutely a great response. Thank you. I guess I will have to keep this in mind when I do let her meet with me this weekend (sigh). Yes, I...

My gripe for a long time has been that she has considered me a temporary partner, even before Kit decided that he wants to have a primary relationship with me. She disregarded me from the beginning, yet I have always respected her place in his life. And no, I don't want him to be monogamous...

I am in text communication with her and I made it clear I am doing this in support of our shared partner after the initial response I gave her, which was that I would like to know what purpose she has for meeting. I bugged him because after she approached me, and after I said that we're in a V...

Some of you are familiar with my situation. My metamour is still struggling in her relationship with our shared partner and has requested to meet with me. Initially, the gist of my response was this: we are in a V, my relationship is going well with him, if you have issues then we will bring it...

To a monogamist, someone else telling me that I need to be ok with THEM being ok with me being with someone else (whew, that was a mouthful) is partially stepping on what I value: being loyal to my partner. For me, it's less about my partner wanting 'freedom' for me and it's more that if he had...

I have no lines of communication with her. We met up a few months ago and I offered a line of communication at one point, but then she told him it upset her. I don't mind him answering a text here and there. What I mind is it being constant. And even when she knows we are spending an evening...

The OKC thing got squashed right away. It took a few instances of my metamour taking him almost entirely away from our night for it to become a discussion between us. I am not tolerating it happening again. On top of that, it was her marital problems (not his problem!) and also her criticisms...

I don't think you're being abrasive. Thank you for your comments. It has been really helpful, once the more accusatory comments have gone away (that I'm trying to control my partner, etc.). She is indeed like a poison and I need to keep that in mind. Lately, after reading a lot of these...

I would agree, and I think the reason it bothers me is that I feel like it's the step back from the meddling. One thing I am learning about poly situations is that the roots to situations are usually deeper than a step back. The opinions she has about me are quite likely a result of other...

Thanks for the link. I'll check it out. It is kind of a stupid term, yes. I'm not sure why I find it harsh.